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So last week I posted my first blog entry asking for help becuase my SO and I caught his 15 year old son throwing our cat on camera and calling her a B****. This was a few months after he was caught on camera at his moms house abusing his 3 cats before she passed. I did end up taking our cat Midnight to my moms house and she has been adjusting well and has a lot more room and a better view. So i feel relived she is in a safe space and I no longer have to worry about him trying anything again.
UPDATE - DH aka MA got notification that SD has ANOTHER package arriving here. (SD has crap sent here since we live in a house and not a condo with communial mailboxes). SMH.....
MMM..in the ever evolving saga of SD....in this episode we find DH realizing that SD could shop for herself but couldn't shop for him.
****Wait for my suprised face*****
So..Sd on the Saturday before Father's day went to the mall and bought makeup and clothes for herself. Nothing for dear old Dad..aka Daddy Warbucks to her.
UPDATE: ***Just rented out the unit to a 30 something out of state professional who works remotely. In NYS, you aren't allowed to say "no Section 8" but every S8 applicant I've had failed the previous landlord reference requirement--seems they've all been terrible tenants in the past.
Five steps forward; two steps back. How quickly things change. We've been on the right path for a while now, and the last 6 months have been particularly good.
SS and I got along when he was a teenager. He had his issues, but he wasn't going along with the PAS program the way his sister was, and he'd apologize when his behavior occasionally slipped into the "us vs. them" BM rule. He had even told me at one point that he felt his sister's behavior was extremely unhealthy. We know he had some issues with his mother.
It has been a wild first half of the year. Too much to get in one cohesive post. SO was back in court in early May - filed a new motion for contempt which sent the BM off. In the six weeks or so between the court dates, she scheduled, canceled and rescheduled all kinds of appointments for SD without telling my SO (who was obtaining the information himself, showing up for the appointments expecting her to be there only to find out BM canceled the appointments w/o notifying him - he lives an hour away), she took took SD off her antidepressant w/o consulting SO, and was late getting the kid
Because oh what a difference a day makes. Or in this case, half a day.
I honestly am at the end of my rope with this situation. DH was going to file for an emergency custody change giving Crazy full custody. He consulted his previous (now retired) lawyer and was going to call the new referral.
SD left in the middle of the night 1.5years ago. Didn't speak to father for 7 months. Now in May has all of a sudden started coming around. I am on complete edge. He has been desperate for her to be back in his life. I am struggling with his expectations of me after a lot of difficult circumstances and what I feel is very disrespectful and mean behaviour toward her father and myself. There are so many details to explain but the bottom line is I don't know if I can accept her the way he wants me to. I am struggling to not view her behaviour as manipulative.
So the turn over rate for managers is just as high as regular employees... so far 5 managers in 5 months
The expectations are so ridiculously high that everyone who is wise has ADA/FMLA/etc to be legally protected from getting fired for taking breaks
My new manager is a hovering micromanager and I loathe her voice already and wish I could block her PMs
I am trying to line something up before quitting this disorganized chaotic mess and wondering if I should just take a leap of faith and work independently as I've done in the past.
Thank you to all that answered my cries for help. I truly appreciate all of the advice and as much as DH bashes my "SM sites" because he thinks his way of parenting is the only and best way, he was definitely open to any input I relayed to him when I told him I posted this. Here is what has transpired since SD-almost 15 arrived on Sunday.
Father's Day was ok, YSD ended up actually staying the night on Sunday (shocker!). It was pretty icky weather so not too much to do outside. YSD didn't go out once, DH did the grocery shopping for her of course. I kept myself very busy with some yard work in between rain showers, running errands, going for a walk and to the gym and reading/watching shows I wanted to watch on my own.
DH and YSD played board games, no, thank you - you enjoy time with your daughter...
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