....to paper plates for myself.
No one is unloading the dishwasher. It's been clean for more than a day. I refuse to touch it.
YSD has NO school today. DH and her are planning on going for a bike ride later on. I am working my rear off at work, no time. DH can complain all he wants to about how busy he is around his deadlines, and when YSD isn't here I do the majority of the cooking/cleanup but I'm dammed if I'm going to do it when she's here and she's got free time and I don't. Esp. when DH makes free ttime to go do things with her.
Today is OSD's 17th birthday. DH has not seen her nor spoken to her since April 2018, when she was 15.
She PAS'ed out when she was 13/14 and BM has not once agreed that she needs to see her dad. There has been no court as DH was burned during the divorce and doesn't want to be in debt for court that likely will not help the matter anyway. BM is most certainly the exalted mommy who can do no wrong.
Had a lovely week off work last week, with no YSD. I cleaned most of the house, baked and cooked up a storm. I was exhausted by Thursday, ate too much too late (DH wanted a 'normal' dinner time for a gourmet meal and dessert - that won't happen again) and was in bed by 9:30 LOL. Just watched shows and read my book for the rest of the days with some exercise here arnd there.
....among me having to tell YSD TWICE MORE to clean her pee off the toilet (I'm checking EACH time she uses it) NOW...I don't ask for explanation just CLEAN.IT.OFF because it's disgusting....fun times! The best is her bathroom is getting updated so she's using ours of necessity and DH refuses to address it so there you go...I have no problem at all doing this b/c I don't care how she takes it. It's basic human decency and to not be a gross human.
FFS. DH cannot say NO. We know this but OMG tonight I had to step in.
I'm in the bedroom escaping YSDs chatter when DH tells her to 'don't touch the art please.' YSD will pick things apart and mess with them so I watch what she's getting into. Yes, she's almost 15.
So this has been a thing again with YSD14.5. Yep, 14.5, closer to 15 really.
I don't use her / shared bath often because it's usually messy and not clean because it's too hard for DH to make her do it. Not a horror show, but I prefer not to enter.
Unless I have to. I came home this morning, DH is in our shower with door locked. I cannot wait. Go downstairs and seat is half covered in p*iss. "WTF!" I say rather loud. "Why is there p*ss all over!" I clean it up because I HAVE to at this point.
OMG - YSD14.5 has been on video chat with BM for at least 1.5 hours now. YSD is going over her homework with BM. And BM doesn't always answer. So it's taking YSD much more time to get through it than if she simply asked DH - DH is the writing/critical thinking expert (he's paid to do it) but YSD never, ever wants to ask DH questions.
My SDs have always, always had problems with saying please and thank you...politeness in general. I told DH this was an issue very early on back when they were 7 and 9, when I first met them. They just had things handed to them with no 'thanks' needed. No matter what it was - whatever they got was expected. It's starting JUST NOW to bother DH (YSD is 14.5 and with us 50/50, OSD is PAS'd out now for years and she's 16.5).
DH has started talking about this with YSD.
On the last day to make a decision YSD14.5 made it at the last minute as promised.
YSD14.5 has been practicing hand stands the whole week. In the living room, in her room, on the front deck, rarely outside. "Ker-thunk-thunk" all the time. I'm ignoring it as DH isn't saying anything. I simply go where I cannot hear it. He's only got on her case ONCE about it.
And she's still claiming she cannot walk up or down stairs. But can do handstands, coming down hard on her feet. Uh-huh. I said, "Ironic you can do that for hours but you cannot walk down the stairs." She agreed. (The meaning of ironic escaping her.)