SS15 recently started the new "I can't hear you" game with me.
It doesn't matter I was talking in a quiet environment, he "just can't hear me". He was always able to hear me right away if I was to take away shit with the same volume though, how intriguing. Basically he "can't" hear me when I talk nicely to him, and in his mind I am the bad guy when I raise my volume losing my patience when I have to tell him the same thing 3 times.
This weekend we went out of town to celebrate ss15's bday. Its been a while that we did anything for either kid's birthday and ss has been wanting to go to an amusement park. DH wanted to surprise ss so we booked a trip to a bigger park that's farther from home, and we were staying in a hotel for two nights for this trip.
As mentioned before, we are moving.
SS has the history of just throws some random things in a box (trash included) then seal it and consider it done. We told him not to seal a box that's not full (also don't use the largest box for all the books, common sense you'd think). But of course he doesn't give a f.
As we are moving, the kids were tasked to help with moving things to the new place.
After a long time of fighting with SS (DH fighting with SS, i was not part of it. It was a fight because SS likes to pretend he has no strength to move anything despite already being taller than me), we took the kids to have some ice cream.
As we all were eating the treat, SS14 stb 15 said:
"It was really nice that she (cold stone worker) made me the ice cream"
....I am just.
SS stb 15 has shorter school days these week because of finals. He was immediately asking DH to pick him up after school. We asked why he cannot take the bus back home (he takes the bus to school), he told us because the bus won't come until an hour later. Truth is, that specific bus won't come until another hour, but other buses will come and can also get him home.
2022 has been very busy and stressful, to add on top of the stress we have to move because our landlord plans to move back. We were able to find a home very quickly and start to plan things around, and DH told SS stb 15 today that we will be moving soon.
SS stb 15 lies about everything.
The latest event was lying about his presentation attire had to be black. It's really stupid because had he really just stated that it was his preference it would still have been done for him. We asked so many times whether his suit had to be black and he insisted "the teacher said it has to be." We told him if it is him who likes it to be black we will get it too. But no, it is the teacher.
SS just got another zero in Spanish. This is the subject we tried so hard to help him learn. This is the subject where we asked him to create Flashcards for himself but he tried to cheat by bleeding the sharpie color to the other side so he could see the answer and get them right.
But we are so abusive, I guess we should just let it be. (I'm just being petty now, haha)
I really don't know, and can never understand how SS is not even feeling bad getting 3 zeros in a row.
SS14 stb 15 lies about everything, but it's never his fault. In his mind, if he tells the truth eventually, we should all be thanking him and praising him. It doesn't matter how many times the importance of honesty is explained to him. It is always our fault, or the teachers' fault that he had to lie.
Ok the title was kind of a click bait, but really not that far from what happened.
To recap, SS is 14 on the spectrum. He recently got 2 ZEROs in tests in one of his classes. We asked him to check with his teacher so he can develop an action plan. (We are so hopeful, I know)