So lol this is gonna be long af!
I tried really hard not to say it out loud. I really tried. But the truth is really that I hate the fact I have to live with my autistic SS over 300 days a year, because his own $hit mom won’t freaking do her 30% of parent duty.
Every night with homework is a freaking fight. Four years now and nothing has changed. For some reason he still thinks he’s the smartest and tries to “teach me” every time we correct him. DH does most of the hw checking but it’s never really stress free.
I am just at a loss right now.
"You don't want him around" "You're always in a bad mood" these are things I hear on a daily basis during this 6 weeks of absolute torture.
I'm writing two separate blogs today because I need to vent about 2 separate dramas playing out. Oh, and SO will forevermore be referred to as "MR. ED". He's like a good horse living in a shed with blinders on away from the reality of SKIDS behavior!
So my DH gets home on the 23rd of December around 7pm. Of course we'll be getting monster and princess the next day because he hasn't seen them in a while. He agreed to take them for 8 days and didn't tell me. Now I understand that it's been a while and he wants to see them, but I can't stand the way that he doesn't talk to me about anything!! We were supposed to go out and get a motel room for new years eve (no kids) and spend a nice night in the quiet together and now we'll have skids instead.
My Dh is out of town for the next month for work. He'll be home before Christmas. I didn't realize how much stress my ss3 and sd2 put on me until he was leaving. I was very sad because I love Dh so much, but on the other hand I'm fucking ecstatic because i don't have to be terrorized by his toddlers for A MONTH!!!
I’m going to skip the history of the situation and go straight to my vent and would appreciate any feedback.
My partners son is 13 and has a pretty severe case of ADHD. I thought I could handle it and after living together it really opened my eyes to the severity and I became very overwhelmed and depressed and as a result it put a strain on me and my partners relationship. I have a five year old boy who is very active and social and I became very aware and worried of the negative influence his son was having on mine. We obviously raised our children very differently as most parents do but the result of that was rubbing off on my son.
I have been married to my DH for a year now and am so frusterated that he Tells his SS 16 everything and lets him do anything. There are no boundaries. Probably because i feel like i need to be a people pleaser. I try my ass off but then just get disrespected. I have had to throw away some stuff (adult stuff)in our room cuz he looks through our room for lint removers, socks, or whatever. I dont want to call it white lies but he will kinda lie abt things like buying shoes and then throwing away the evidence.
A very long story short ...... my partner of 8 years has full custody of his 9 year old son, the son lives with his nan (partners mother) and she has brang him up. When I say brang him up I mean we aren’t allowed a say in his life, she has completely controlled everything !! Now she is completely attached as if he was her own and same for the boy. Anyway.... we have him whenever we can weekends and holidays, this boy has EVERYTHING he wants, he is VERY spoilt!
We also have a nearly 5 year old boy together and I’m also currently pregnant and expecting a girl!