2022 has been very busy and stressful, to add on top of the stress we have to move because our landlord plans to move back. We were able to find a home very quickly and start to plan things around, and DH told SS stb 15 today that we will be moving soon.
SS stb 15 lies about everything.
The latest event was lying about his presentation attire had to be black. It's really stupid because had he really just stated that it was his preference it would still have been done for him. We asked so many times whether his suit had to be black and he insisted "the teacher said it has to be." We told him if it is him who likes it to be black we will get it too. But no, it is the teacher.
SS just got another zero in Spanish. This is the subject we tried so hard to help him learn. This is the subject where we asked him to create Flashcards for himself but he tried to cheat by bleeding the sharpie color to the other side so he could see the answer and get them right.
But we are so abusive, I guess we should just let it be. (I'm just being petty now, haha)
I really don't know, and can never understand how SS is not even feeling bad getting 3 zeros in a row.
SS14 stb 15 lies about everything, but it's never his fault. In his mind, if he tells the truth eventually, we should all be thanking him and praising him. It doesn't matter how many times the importance of honesty is explained to him. It is always our fault, or the teachers' fault that he had to lie.
Ok the title was kind of a click bait, but really not that far from what happened.
To recap, SS is 14 on the spectrum. He recently got 2 ZEROs in tests in one of his classes. We asked him to check with his teacher so he can develop an action plan. (We are so hopeful, I know)
SS14 almost 15 is severely lacking common sense. I'm kinda beyond my words.
Just yesterday he told me he doesn't know what a semester is, and that he thinks there are 4 semesters in one academic year. He's autistic but I really didn't expect to hear that from him since he's been mainstream in most of his class (although doing quite poorly, Cs and Ds..)
He also doesn't know how much time is needed to heat up food in the microwave. When covid just started he put 15 minutes (yes you read that right) for some chicken nuggets and that literally put the microwave on fire.
So stepson now 24, after living with his partner of 3 years & having a baby now 1 and previously living with her mother has chosen to walk away from his family as she dosnt want him smoking pot or harder drugs. He has smoked pot for 10 years & she's always asked him to stop but he won't even losing his licence & now getting it back he went straight back to pot. He had a choice to make & he picked drugs over his child & now hubby said he can come here to live more for grandbaby to know she's safe when he has her.
Actually not as angry as before. Just tired.
SS14 has no idea how to study. His "studying" is just staring into the computer and wait for the time to pass. He doesn't know how to take notes. He is currently failing 2 classes.
Helping him learn how to study has been really difficult. He can't make a plan himself, he has no goals either. On top of that he likes to complain about how hard he's worked-- although he really has not.
There, I said it.
I know I come off like an evil bitch but I'm emotionally worn out.
When my SS was 10, BM took him to her home country for a "holiday" and refused to let him come back unless my DH agreed to change the custody agreement to make her country SS's primary residence. This happened literally three days after our wedding.
My DH tried to fight it for years but he couldn't do much from our country. They never came to an agreement.