There, I said it.
SS is finally back to school, after he reported he had a sore throat and was put on a Covid isolation (aka sent home to do nothing). He of course doesn't have covid. (tested) In fact he doesn't even know what a sore throat is supposed to feel like. He'd however always exaggerate for the sake of attention. It's really annoying I don't know how much longer I can tolerate. (if he gets a paper on the fingers he'd at like he lost a limb)
SS14 just started high school today. Of course everyone has to wake up becuse now he's up. (he's loud) I am at the point where my patience is non existant, and I really hate living like this in my own home.
Everything needs to be spelled out because little sh*t enjoys finding loopholes. (But yeah, he has the balls to show the attitude being the offender)
Recently I keep asking myself this question, why do I still try (to help SS)?
SS13 is on ASD spectrum and also has ADHD. I don't want to lie about it even if that makes me sound like a horrible person, but it is mostly unenjoyable when he's around (and he's always around-not his fault except the times he eavesdrops).
SS13 is always eavesdropping. It's annoying because when we call his name he rarely hears it, but when the conversation doesn't involve him he seems to hear every single word and always eager to chim in (but we don't need it!) even after we ask him to leave.
It doesn't matter how many times we told him to stop doing this because we really do not appreciate the behavior. He insists it's all "just conincident" (yea, right, like ten times a day).
Autistic Ss13 is never the most honest person, it doesn't matter what the stereotype says (e.g. autistic people can't lie). He lies and cries then throws a fit when he's caught and he knows he's lying. I feel there is nothing more we can do to make SS a better human being.
Because SS put 15 minutes on the Microwave to warm up his chicken nuggets.
15 mins would be fine if he was using the regular oven, but not microwave ovens. We all know that but we just can't get this to his head. It obviously didn't help even though the instruction was clear on the chicken nuggets packaging.
My house is now full of smoke and none of us can escape.
I guess I should still be grateful because we are all home and was able to put the fire off (the nuggets were literally on fire). I can't imagine if he's home on his own.
So freaking stressful.
I truly don't know it's a teenager thing or autism thing at this point. DH and I both are exhausted from interactions with SS.
If you talk nicely to him he would think you're in a play mode and nothing you said matters. If you yell at him you will get his attention and get stuff done but then he'll act like a victim. Neither DH nor I like to yell. I don't really yell but I sure am not the nicest person when talking to SS.
Once in a while out of boredom and my curiosity I cyber-stalk BM just to see why we haven't heard from her. (Nothing hard-core necessary because she's not very techie)
On her bio at her work she had the audacity to say she lives with her TWO kids, SS (who lives with us 100% now) and her daughghter and her husband.
This is the mom who hasn't talked to or seen her own son for a year, but you go girl, right? *bad*
Haven't been back for a while. Had enough over the summer so DH and I are on the same page that 2 hours a day checking someone's homework is just not good use of our time. We decided SS needs to be the one to care about his own grades, and we can help when he has questions, but HE will be the one to check his own homework.
Recap- SS is High functioning autistic.
Has been much better than before so far now that we have time for ourselves not fighting with SS over his hw.