This weekend we went out of town to celebrate ss15's bday. Its been a while that we did anything for either kid's birthday and ss has been wanting to go to an amusement park. DH wanted to surprise ss so we booked a trip to a bigger park that's farther from home, and we were staying in a hotel for two nights for this trip.
As mentioned before, we are moving.
SS has the history of just throws some random things in a box (trash included) then seal it and consider it done. We told him not to seal a box that's not full (also don't use the largest box for all the books, common sense you'd think). But of course he doesn't give a f.
As we are moving, the kids were tasked to help with moving things to the new place.
After a long time of fighting with SS (DH fighting with SS, i was not part of it. It was a fight because SS likes to pretend he has no strength to move anything despite already being taller than me), we took the kids to have some ice cream.
As we all were eating the treat, SS14 stb 15 said:
"It was really nice that she (cold stone worker) made me the ice cream"
....I am just.
SS stb 15 has shorter school days these week because of finals. He was immediately asking DH to pick him up after school. We asked why he cannot take the bus back home (he takes the bus to school), he told us because the bus won't come until an hour later. Truth is, that specific bus won't come until another hour, but other buses will come and can also get him home.
I sometimes think the IEP accommodations aren't always helpful to the students.
2022 has been very busy and stressful, to add on top of the stress we have to move because our landlord plans to move back. We were able to find a home very quickly and start to plan things around, and DH told SS stb 15 today that we will be moving soon.
SS14 stb 15 lies about everything, but it's never his fault. In his mind, if he tells the truth eventually, we should all be thanking him and praising him. It doesn't matter how many times the importance of honesty is explained to him. It is always our fault, or the teachers' fault that he had to lie.
Ok the title was kind of a click bait, but really not that far from what happened.
To recap, SS is 14 on the spectrum. He recently got 2 ZEROs in tests in one of his classes. We asked him to check with his teacher so he can develop an action plan. (We are so hopeful, I know)
Recently I keep asking myself this question, why do I still try (to help SS)?
SS13 is on ASD spectrum and also has ADHD. I don't want to lie about it even if that makes me sound like a horrible person, but it is mostly unenjoyable when he's around (and he's always around-not his fault except the times he eavesdrops).
Because SS put 15 minutes on the Microwave to warm up his chicken nuggets.
15 mins would be fine if he was using the regular oven, but not microwave ovens. We all know that but we just can't get this to his head. It obviously didn't help even though the instruction was clear on the chicken nuggets packaging.
My house is now full of smoke and none of us can escape.
I guess I should still be grateful because we are all home and was able to put the fire off (the nuggets were literally on fire). I can't imagine if he's home on his own.
So freaking stressful.