I know it's petty, I'm just not a big fan of putting together a party for SS13, even if it's only virtual. To be honest, I'm not a big fan of celebrating birthdays at all, my own included. To me "being born" is not really an achievement of the baby but the mom's (but no, I'm not celebrating for BM in this case)...that's off topic anyway. I do it for others but I skip my own when I can. (DH is big on celebrating these thing so I don't always get to do that on my own..Not a complain, it's sure a sweet gesture from DH)
Haven't been back for about two weeks. Some updates to my last post: ESY is in SS' IEP, and we should have it happen this year too. The teacher said this year the school district is really tightening up the standard and she didn't think my SS is at risk regressing. (Untrue. He can forget how to add/subtract if not practicing daily--- and once we told the teacher this actually happened, he was put back to ESY again.)
This week I learned from SS that the special ed kids at school get to do a "prepare exam" that carry some exact questions as the "real exam." Given my SS is never the best person to communicate, I'm hoping this is untrue. I lose count on how many days we have to argue with him that -10 and 10 are not the same, and "I just forgot the negative sign" won't make it right.
Today we got the teacher's email saying SS is not eligible to extended school year (summer class) and that he is ready to be in mainstream math and English classes.
This week we had relatively stress-less homework sessions..although it was only half way through the week, it was better than fighting all the small and silly issues.
I have heard over an over lately that "accepting the reality" regarding who my SS12 is and his condition will make my life easier. I have a hard time understanding this concept of "accepting."
Haven't post for a while. The past 3 weeks has been hard. Because the school has closed all the way till Summer possibly, we are stuck at home with the kids. I'll admit even just with my own it's hard, and it doesn't really matter how sweet DD9 is. But stuck home with SS12 (ASD+ADHD) is even harder. It's almost impossible for both DH and I to work from home because the challenges the kids presents.
DH has to be on business trip this week. Another week fighting with my SS just about everything.
I tried really hard not to say it out loud. I really tried. But the truth is really that I hate the fact I have to live with my autistic SS over 300 days a year, because his own $hit mom won’t freaking do her 30% of parent duty.
Every night with homework is a freaking fight. Four years now and nothing has changed. For some reason he still thinks he’s the smartest and tries to “teach me” every time we correct him. DH does most of the hw checking but it’s never really stress free.
I thought about not posting this but recently it has been quite unbearable.
After the crazy BM episode (spoiler alert: she didn’t even bother to see her son a bit, surprise!) we have been struggling with SS11’s behavior. Even the school work and homework both have been really light.
Again SS11 is high functioning ASD + ADHD. I get that most of the time he really didn’t intend to offend, but god, when do you really draw a line when you have been teaching the same thing over and over and over and this human being just seemingly can’t learn?
NCP BM lives in another state, she doesn't see SS more than 30 days a year. She usually gets "some" summer time and one week at the end of the year for her parenting time. (Not per court order, but more of her own choice. She is supposed to see her sone at least once a month for a weekend, but we all know how that works.) BM has no legal custody of SS.