I've been married for 8 years, known my husband and SS for 11 years, we have 3 bio kids, and I don't think I can do this step mom thing anymore. The first 9 years were fine. Visitation during summers and every other major holiday. But since fall of 2020 we've (I've) had him full time. My husband is in the army and leaves a lot, he doesn't do much when he's here anyways (I swear he has a gaming addiction) and I'm a stay at home mom. My stepson from the beginning has been very sneaky, manipulative and lies frequently.
So, I had a meltdown weekend and I've ended up here...
How do I tell my partner I don't want his disruptive son who has ADHD to come on my birthday day out as I want it to just be the two of us and I don't want anything to go wrong as when his son is with us he will create a scene but screaming at his dad that he wishes his dad was dead and that he is a rubbish dad which obviously embarrasses my partner greatly.
My bfs 6 yr old son is such a challenge for me. I want so much to like him. He is so utterly and pathetically coddled. It's not his fault!!! His mom did it to him and continues to do it at her house. I've worked patiently with him and his 10yr old sister, building a relationship with them. Overall it's going well. Esp with his sister, who at first wouldn't even look at me, and now gives me big hugs.
Well, it happened. We knew it might. He was bound to have a child or two from his past wild behavior. Cut to last year, 6 kids in, and suddenly there's a new addition to the family. Surprise, it's a six foot tall 230 lbs uhh, 14 year old boy. We had talked about it several times. About how we would feel, how we would cope, how we would adjust... But life just happens, you know? I expected to be happy. And I was. I expected to be excited. And I was. What I did not expect was to feel an undeniably and deeply disturbing feeling of being an outsider in my own family.
I'm sure some of you are aware of my situation with my bf's son (pleasd refer to my previous blog if not). I was wondering what your advice would be on how to tell my BF that I won't be buying his son any presents for Christmas or communicating with him any longer.
Im 27 years old and got into a relationship with an older man at the age of 22. At the time he had a 10 year old son. His son has always been rude but every laughed it off as cheeky because he was cute and the youngest in his family.
I have always done my best to care for him despite this, bought food, clothing, looked after him, took him on days out, spoilt him even though he doesn't deserve it, cooked and cleaned for him.
Where do I start... not much has changed on the weekend schedules for us. We maybe have an extra night together which doesn't make that much difference..... I'm really questioning whether or not this life is for me. Step parenting a child who has no respect for anyone is so hard. Why am I expected to love and treat this child as my own when really we haven't connected at all since our new baby was born. There's been a few instances of carelessness on SS behalf with the new baby which were quite dangerous and I would just not want to risk anything happening to my child.
I am a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend is 33 years old with a 12 year old son. We have been together 7 years.
To be honest, him having a kid has always been an issue for me. When we got together I was really young (18) and just pushed any issues to the back of my mind since I loved him and was young and silly. I thought that him having a kid would be something I would eventually get used to.
My husband and I both have 11 year old sons from our previous relationships. My husband's children only comes once every two weeks. My kids and I have just moved to Australia for 4 months and I can't stand my husband's son. He is a bully and my husband admits that. Another problem is my husband isn't fair with disciplining our kids. This morning my son told me that he was locked outside the house for a while while we we're still in bed. His son said he 'forgot' that my son was left outside. Wtf, sorry for the language but I'm absolutely feeling so angry. He got away with it.