My bfs 6 yr old son is such a challenge for me. I want so much to like him. He is so utterly and pathetically coddled. It's not his fault!!! His mom did it to him and continues to do it at her house. I've worked patiently with him and his 10yr old sister, building a relationship with them. Overall it's going well. Esp with his sister, who at first wouldn't even look at me, and now gives me big hugs.
Well, it happened. We knew it might. He was bound to have a child or two from his past wild behavior. Cut to last year, 6 kids in, and suddenly there's a new addition to the family. Surprise, it's a six foot tall 230 lbs uhh, 14 year old boy. We had talked about it several times. About how we would feel, how we would cope, how we would adjust... But life just happens, you know? I expected to be happy. And I was. I expected to be excited. And I was. What I did not expect was to feel an undeniably and deeply disturbing feeling of being an outsider in my own family.
I'm sure some of you are aware of my situation with my bf's son (pleasd refer to my previous blog if not). I was wondering what your advice would be on how to tell my BF that I won't be buying his son any presents for Christmas or communicating with him any longer.
Im 27 years old and got into a relationship with an older man at the age of 22. At the time he had a 10 year old son. His son has always been rude but every laughed it off as cheeky because he was cute and the youngest in his family.
I have always done my best to care for him despite this, bought food, clothing, looked after him, took him on days out, spoilt him even though he doesn't deserve it, cooked and cleaned for him.
Where do I start... not much has changed on the weekend schedules for us. We maybe have an extra night together which doesn't make that much difference..... I'm really questioning whether or not this life is for me. Step parenting a child who has no respect for anyone is so hard. Why am I expected to love and treat this child as my own when really we haven't connected at all since our new baby was born. There's been a few instances of carelessness on SS behalf with the new baby which were quite dangerous and I would just not want to risk anything happening to my child.
I am a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend is 33 years old with a 12 year old son. We have been together 7 years.
To be honest, him having a kid has always been an issue for me. When we got together I was really young (18) and just pushed any issues to the back of my mind since I loved him and was young and silly. I thought that him having a kid would be something I would eventually get used to.
My husband and I both have 11 year old sons from our previous relationships. My husband's children only comes once every two weeks. My kids and I have just moved to Australia for 4 months and I can't stand my husband's son. He is a bully and my husband admits that. Another problem is my husband isn't fair with disciplining our kids. This morning my son told me that he was locked outside the house for a while while we we're still in bed. His son said he 'forgot' that my son was left outside. Wtf, sorry for the language but I'm absolutely feeling so angry. He got away with it.
This isn't the first time the subject of relinquishing his parental rights has been brought up. Last year when DH got home from a 9 month deployment, we briefly had a discussion about "what if." But yesterday DH said he's actually going to file a petition. It's not that he doesn't love SS5, but that he wants absolutely nothing to do with BM anymore and he said the court system is failing to do their job. He's tired and exhausted and just wants it to stop.
So SS5 is visiting for 10 days while he's on Fall break. Last time he was here it was for 2 and a half months over the summer so the 10 days shouldn't seem like a big deal. But this time I have a 7 week old newborn daughter and my husband doesn't have off of work. My mother-in-law is here to take care of SS while DH is at work, but I still just want the house to myself so I can focus on my daughter. She's an absolute delight, not fussy, and is almost sleeping through the night, so it's not that I couldn't handle SS and my baby girl, but I really just want alone time with her.
I feel like a horrible person, i cant find a way to talk to anyone about this. if i talk to my friends i feel like they are agreeing because its the friendly thing to do. If i talk to my significant other he shuts down and it becomes an argument. I am 23 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and i am 3 months pregnant . when we first met his son was great we had no issues and we got along great. However we ended up separating for acouple months and when we decided to try things out again his son was a whole different person.