So, I had a meltdown weekend and I've ended up here... 

I am a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend is 33 years old with a 12 year old son. We have been together 7 years.

To be honest, him having a kid has always been an issue for me. When we got together I was really young (18) and just pushed any issues to the back of my mind since I loved him and was young and silly. I thought that him having a kid would be something I would eventually get used to.

I have a 12 yo/SD...we got along well until my husband and I got married (3 years ago).  She is eith us every Tuesday and every other weekend.  I always get anxiety knowing she is coming over. I get frustrated bc my husband does not enforce ANY rules or make her accountable for anything,  making me the "bad guy" for asking her to do the basics...putting dishes away, cleaning her room etc...