Decison time: should I break up with my boyfriend?
I am a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend is 33 years old with a 12 year old son. We have been together 7 years.
To be honest, him having a kid has always been an issue for me. When we got together I was really young (18) and just pushed any issues to the back of my mind since I loved him and was young and silly. I thought that him having a kid would be something I would eventually get used to.
I love kids (I am going to be a teacher) but his is really hard to get on with. His behaviour was shocking to begin with (I mean hitting strangers in public and being extremely rude and distruptive) but it has improved slightly since he has grown up a bit. However he really thinks he controls adults and can get whatever he wants as soon as he clicks his fingers and I am just not used to it as I was not raised that way. He is also very needy and needs attention to be on him at all times. He cannot sit and let adults talk, he needs to be talking or acting ridiculous to make sure all the attention is on him. At my boyfriend's mums birthday dinner he pretended to be drunk then cried all night when I told him to stop it.
His ex used to give us a lot of issues. She is now married with 2 kids of her own so I guess that has calmed down a bit but because of her interference in the past (it is a long story, I won't go into it but she is a nightmare) I do not like her and we just stay away from each other. My boyfriend hates her too. Tbh I dont even like hearing her name. She is awful.
I want kids eventually but I am not ready to be a mum yet. I want to travel and go on fun holidays like we used to but he now wants to go on holidays with the kid too and I just don't want that. We don't live together yet and I think that would be really difficult to spend every weekend with the kid there too. Most weekends (before the virus) I would go out and drink with my friends and visit family. My boyfriend wants me to spend more time with him and the kid at the weekend but I just don't want that. I find it difficult spending time with him.
As I said I am 25 and I think that it is now time to decide. We do have other issues but I believe if he didn't have a kid, we could fix them and be happy. Whenever I think of breaking up with him it really panics me. He has been in my life since I was 18, he helps me with everything, he knows me more than anyone and I do love him. If I stick this out and stay with him will it ever get better? Do I just need to grow up a bit? Or do I need to get out now while I am still relatively young and find someone who doesn't have a kid?
Thank you for any help and advice. I really need it right now!