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ssrow's picture

I just joined, so hi everyone! I'm a mom of two (a 3 year old boy and a 18 month girl), and a stepmom to a 14 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. The 14 year old lives with her mom and we see her every once in a while. The boy was just (literally) thrown into our lives last week, and turned our world upside down.


How do you handle a bully coparent / HCBM?

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Hi StepTalk community,

Long-time lurker, first-time poster. Hopefully I'm in the right category. I'm so happy to have found this community, I don't have any step-parent friends (they all have biokids) and sometimes when I vent to them I feel crazy, so it's nice to be validated in this challenging role!

I love my husband, we recently got married after 4 years together and I have a lovely SD10 now.  My husband is a good dad who fights to see his child and be involved in her life. He's in court right now trying to get more time.


Hell visited me again!!!!

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Hell paid me a visit again yesterday..

DH brought SD again yesterday.. 

SD refused to come into the house, Instead she took a chair and sat in the yard in the hot sun when I saw that I asked her to come into the house and sit she said, No !! I good right here!! 

SD didn't speak to me instead she used her father to relate to me however I spoke directly to her, I asked if she wanted food she said No! I good! But eventually went to neighbour's house and ate


I'm starting to hate my stepson and I don't want to

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I'm a stepmom of 3 children, and the youngest is 13. I have no biological children of my own.

My husband and the childrens' mother separated 6 years ago and the divorce was finalised 2 years ago. My husband and I met 4 years ago when he was going through court proceedings with the divorce. We have been married for about 18 months now. 


How do people do this?

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I'm recently 25. I had a lot of plans for what I was going to do with my life and then I met someone at work. We've been together for about a year and a half and I've been told that we have been through more crap in that time than my friends who have been together for 10 years.

I never expected to be with someone who has kids but it wasn't an idea that scared me. And rightly so. What should have scared me was the prospect of having my life controlled by someone who wasn't in it but adjacent to it, the ex (BM).


Problems with 6yr old stepson

Reesescandy14's picture

Okay I met my husband a year and a half ago we got married on our one year anniversary of dating, he has two kids a 4yr old daughter and 6yr old son from previous relationship, I'm pregnant also and due in just a week. I feel like everything was fine before we got married in August, once we got married and my husbands ex found out I was pregnant it's like everything went down hill and now my husband had to get a lawyer and file motions for set schedules bc his ex won't let the kids come over most of the time and when they do my step son is an absolute monster.


Stressed & Annoyed + COVID Testing

Crystalmuffin's picture

Since my last blog post, it was feeling like there were improvements being made as far as my feelings toward SD5. (She turns 6 in April.) I'm beginning to think/realize it will always be this ebb and flow of taking steps forward, then back.


Below is my list of petty annoyances, then I will go into detail about how I really feel.


1. Wears her rollerskates in our second story apartment.


Decison time: should I break up with my boyfriend?

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I am a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend is 33 years old with a 12 year old son. We have been together 7 years.

To be honest, him having a kid has always been an issue for me. When we got together I was really young (18) and just pushed any issues to the back of my mind since I loved him and was young and silly. I thought that him having a kid would be something I would eventually get used to.



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Alright here it goes. First I'll give you the players in this game and some background info. This might help with some advice I'm needing. 
Me: 39 yo mother of 2. My daughter is 21 and lives on her own. Self employed, independent, overall a joy to be around. 
My son is 20. Joined the National Guard at 18, has one daughter who is 1, and another baby on the way. He lives a state over with his gf. 


Need advice on 12yo/SD

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I have a 12 yo/SD...we got along well until my husband and I got married (3 years ago).  She is eith us every Tuesday and every other weekend.  I always get anxiety knowing she is coming over. I get frustrated bc my husband does not enforce ANY rules or make her accountable for anything,  making me the "bad guy" for asking her to do the basics...putting dishes away, cleaning her room etc...