I am a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend is 33 years old with a 12 year old son. We have been together 7 years.
To be honest, him having a kid has always been an issue for me. When we got together I was really young (18) and just pushed any issues to the back of my mind since I loved him and was young and silly. I thought that him having a kid would be something I would eventually get used to.
Alright here it goes. First I'll give you the players in this game and some background info. This might help with some advice I'm needing.
Me: 39 yo mother of 2. My daughter is 21 and lives on her own. Self employed, independent, overall a joy to be around.
My son is 20. Joined the National Guard at 18, has one daughter who is 1, and another baby on the way. He lives a state over with his gf.
I have a 12 yo/SD...we got along well until my husband and I got married (3 years ago). She is eith us every Tuesday and every other weekend. I always get anxiety knowing she is coming over. I get frustrated bc my husband does not enforce ANY rules or make her accountable for anything, making me the "bad guy" for asking her to do the basics...putting dishes away, cleaning her room etc...
Hello I'm new here. I met my now husband 12 years ago. At the time he had one son and him and his ex had just split up when we met. We dated and I got pregnant from him after a few months. He left me and got back with his ex without saying anything I found out because he wouldn't answer my calls. I went through the pregnancy on my own. He never called us. When my son was 2 him and his ex broke up even though they had another son together who was a few months old. He then contacted me out of the blue wanting to finally be involved with my son.
Well let me give you a brief overview I am married to my DH for almost 2 years he has 2 teen daughters. SD one is 14 and an awesome person couldn't love her more. SD two is 13 and I don't know how to even start with her. Biomom died almost four years ago and was a shitty shitty psycho person. She had a lot of problems mental and physical. SD 14 hates her and wants me to adopt her. SD 13 is the epitome of evil. Just this past week she wrote a note at school that she got instutionalized for while she has been there barely any phone calls to my DH and she is supposed to get out on Sunday.
So my disengagement is going well....so far. Anyway I wanted to ask advice on bio mom behaviors. For fathers day of 2018 bio mom dropped skids off with a homemade fathers day card (from her, no kids present on card) and said it's tradition.....?? Oldest kid when I started dating DH was not even 2 yet.... how much of a tradition is it really??!
I never thought this would be the result of 10 years of marriage, but I guess it doesn't surprise me. When dh and I were dating, I told him that I didn't think getting married was a good idea, but somehow he convinced me otherwise. I have depression, anxiety, ptsd and a variety of chronic illness, so becoming a sm was something I seriously wanted to avoid.