A little overwhelmed
I just joined, so hi everyone! I'm a mom of two (a 3 year old boy and a 18 month girl), and a stepmom to a 14 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. The 14 year old lives with her mom and we see her every once in a while. The boy was just (literally) thrown into our lives last week, and turned our world upside down.
His mom passed away last year, and his grandfather passed away 5 months after that. This poor boy is in a very bad situation. His mom use to severally abuse him, and kept him sheltered. He has DiGeorge syndrome, which I'm still learning about. He's currently living with his grandmother, who is his grandfathers second wife, and doesn't want custody. She is living in a hotel, and drags him everywhere with her. For example, she works all day and late into the night (like past midnight) driving around town, with him in her back seat. He also hasn't been in school for the past year, so he is behind. We will be taking complete custody of him, and are just starting the process. My husband wasn't on the birth certificate, and had been pushed away by the mother. So this is going to be a tough process. Technically no one has custody of this kid, so he is a kid of the state, and I don't even know where to start. All I know is the boy needs to get out of the living situation he is in now.
I feel awful for this poor boy. But to be honest, I'm so overwhelmed, I feel like our lives are being turned upside down. We had finally gotten to a good place in our lives. We just bought our first house, I finally got a job (first time going back to work after having my kids), and we were finally starting to save some money. Now, I'm not sure how we are even gonna afford the major help this poor kid needs. I feel absolutely guilty because part of me doesn't want him to move into our house. I know it's wrong to feel that way, but I can't help it. I love my life the way it is, and I don't know if my mental health will survive what it will take to take care of this little boy. He is 9 and he can't speak very well. He will need a hearing aid as well, and he needs some kind of surgery (not sure what, that's what the grandmother said). My mental health hasn't been great, I had some major ppd after my daughter was born, and I was just staring to feel better. Now I feel less like myself than ever before. I have thought of suicide, but the only thing that changed my mind was my kids. I could never do that to them, and I know I will never. I just feel lost and very alone. I don't have many friends so I don't have anyone to really talk to about any of this. I saw this site, and I figured.. why not. Maybe yall could understand in some way. I reached out to a mom group on Facebook, and got a lot of hate over it, so I"m sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings.
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.