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Brand new member here...so if I don't use acronyms or misuse them, please excuse me.
I married my husband about a year and a half ago. He has two children - a daughter who is 11 and a son who is 8. I also have two daughters, ages 19 and 12, living with us, so it's a big family. After years of being single, I basically added a small family to my own, and maybe I just didn't think it through before marrying. It's a lot!!!
My boyfriend goes to Ex house to help kids with their homework I think it's unacceptable and not that I expect anything I think it's crossing the line.
Who here has escaped an abuser? Mental, physical, or both?
I am a survivor of abuse. My exh mentally abused me for a very long time. He was water on a rock and his long game was GOOD. He seeped in and wore me down so gradually, that I didn't realize what was going on.
ODS had his school play today and I wasnt able to go, so my mom went and recorded it for me. Afterwards, she called me to tell me how it went. After a little bit she asked if SD had her play today also. And then asked if DH went. And then a little later in the convo "oh well I sure hope BM went." And I kind of spazzed on her. I told her I just dont want to talk about SD, she causes me nothing but drama and stress and I just dont want to talk about her. My mom said she understood.
Well, she is supposed to go to court, we shall see if she actually shows up.
I got home from work yesterday to find a notice from the MedusaCounty Circuit Court. Inside was our copy of the Summons issued to her to appear in court to show cause as to why she shouldn't be found in contempt of court for non-payment of support
That is the big question. Just so happens BM's attorney was in my bf's lawyer's office on another matter so yesterday he was able to hand deliver the settlement offer to BM's attorney and it asks for it to be reviewed with client prior to pre trial (December 12), etc.
Too many people here are not interested in being supportive, they only wish to judge and demoralize. So I am removing my original post and finding support elsewhere. For those of you who seek vulnerable people to belittle, shame on you. We need a community of people who genuinely care here.
First of all I want to thank those who commented on my first post regarding SO and SD not keeping to the schedule. I can't tell you all how much your validating comments meant to me. When you are living in it day after day, and are consistently treated like you are the evil step mother, all common sense goes out the window and I start to think I am the unreasonable one.
Tonight I spoke with my DH about Christmas plans. Since 2011 we have always spent Christmas with his family and with us usually hosting. We are not hosting it this year And after last years disaster with adult skid there would be no way I would be hosting unless skid was not attending. Last year I told DH that I did not want to spend Christmas with skid again.
DH and I had a heated text exchange, while I was at work today. Ultimately, I ended up clapping back at him in regards to how I have to lurk his parent’s public social media accounts, every effing year, just to find out when skid will be here for summer AND Christmas visitation.
DH said “Skid will be here on the 17th.”
I didn’t even bother inquiring how long he knew this information, because I always get a “I just found out myself, momjeans!”