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I was anticipating drama with bio mom when we had to ask her for her financial info... We haven't had to talk to her for much in the past but when we did she was always a major pain.
Well, this is what happened. My husband asked her for her financials. She sent it no problem.. Then she proceeded to send an email saying he now owed her for child support for the 2 kids when they go to university in the fall... Ummm.. What.
Last year, out-of-the-blue, Step-diablas (26&28) started to "drop in" for extended-stay visits with DH and I. These visits lasted anywhere from 1-3 weeks at a time. They came and went, on and off, for nearly a year. Upon her 1st arrival, YSD made a passive aggressive, snotty demand to DH that I should prepare her special meals.
I may be a little late to the party with blogging these days, but wanted to weigh in on my experience or lack thereof of the stepgrand experience.
I've been seeing a lot of social media and TV shows on estrangement between parents and adult children. The last statistic I heard was one in four adult children have chosen to go no contact with their parent/s. I've seen arguments from both sides ranging from the "missing reasons," where there's a narcissistic parent who acts innocent and like they are totally shocked over having been ghosted despite being told umpteen times the reasons, to parents claiming they are the ones who distanced themselves. It's like a giant he said she said issue.
I'd love some advice about reworking a parenting plan. I need to give a little background so bear with me: My SO's parenting plan was created in July of 2024 and needs to be changed due to a couple reasons. In the parenting plan, the EX is listed as the primary parent, my SO pays child and spousal support, and the childcare split was set as temporary until the EXs weird hour work schedule was due to change this Fall 2025 where it was then going to change to 50/50 childcare split.
I want to hear from steps who've been in it 10+ years - is second guessing decision to be a step mom in the begining normal? This is a huge thing to take on and I feel it. I admit that I also did too much in the beginning so am a little worn out because I'm an overgiver and a fixer. It's beautiful in so many ways but also so difficult (and the BM doesn't make it easy at all). I am looking for some raw advice or some reassurance that this is going to be worth it. That the happiness and calm will come with time. I'm only about 1 year in of parenting SS6 and SS8 5 days/week.
I am so tired, and my self-worth is decreasing by the day. Is it even worth sticking around anymore and just go back to my old life which was nothing but stress, unfulfillment and boring.
SD has been here almost 2 weeks already! Really don't have anything to complain about so far and SD has been home with me during the work weeks until camp starts Monday. I am looking forward to camp starting, but I feel like I would feel that way even with DD because it is just distracting and more on me to balance while I'm working my full time job remotely. Smallest complaint I would have is SD just definitely lacks urgency, but that just means we have to adjust to make sure we give her ample warning before we are leaving the house and/or if we need to do something quickly.
I hope I don't jinx myself with this post but it's been pretty peaceful these past few months. No sign of Little Idiot (SD25) planning on coming up this summer so I am hoping/praying I won't have to see her until Christmas.
She's still living the bartender life down in FL, working hard on trying to trap The Fool into a marriage I'm sure. She was pushing hard to drag him up here to introduce him to the family but he probably didn't want to come (thank God - Goofy, her last boyfriend, aka The Cocaine Cowboy was always up for a trip here to invade my home).
Not step parent related.. but divorcing parent related.. and will, at some point become steplife for these kids.. and the BM is my OSD.. so some relativeness to steplife lol.
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