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How bad do you have to be treated before you say no more? I am sure you are sick of hearing me about this but anyway. We were at a looong tournament this weekend. Sitting in the scorching sun to see SS barely play. It cost us around $900 for the weekend. That doesn't include the team fees we already pay. Then SS went to a private camp that cost $400 to work with college coaches when we got home . He didn't like it. Yesterday SO made sure he was home from work to take SS to practice.When he went to pick him up it was running behind. SS was up to bat and didn't swing at 6 strikes.
Ugh I'm just so frustrated I just need to rant. I have a 7 month old baby and I've been with my partner for 6 years. He has a 13 year old daughter. BM isn't involved, has been in & out of rehab & now that she's been out for 5 months with a new place and stable job, even though she only lives 15 minutes away in the same TOWN... she's spent time with SD literally maybe 5 times. My heart breaks for this kid & everyone in the family pities BM bc her mother was an addict and therefor it's not her fault she's an absolute mess.
Doing the same thing over and over with the same bad results, right?
We were supposed to have Princess Popcorn's kidney removed this past Tuesday and have a biopsy done on her liver. My daughter and I dropped her off Monday and they did some bloodwork and a CT scan on her. I got the call Tuesday that the CT scan showed extensive liver damage done by the cysts on it. There is also a cyst on her right kidney. She had trouble waking up from the sedation. They did not believe that she would recover from the anesthesia if we went ahead with surgery so my son and I went back to get her. Her prognosis is poor, the vet believes that she may only have a couple
I want off this effing roller coaster...
After a nerve wrecking meeting my SO had with the evaluator on Thursday last week, we learned on Friday that BM isn't cooperating with the custody study at all. She isn't returning messages, phone calls, emails, and hasn't turned in her paperwork. She also failed to show up for two of her interviews. She requested this damn study BTW. The evaluator sent a memo to the judge, who said it will continue "do your best with what you can" was the quote.
Just passing along some quotes for now. Definitely rings true and holds up when facing challenged in StepWorld ( and in other aspects of life too) ....
"They might hate you.
They might hate you when you stand up for yourself.
They might hate you when you speak up.
They might hate you for stepping back.
Even if you do it graciously.
Even if you do it kindly.
Even if you do it with love.
They might hate when you create some healthy boundaries. They might hate you for not being who they want you to be.
So, I made the mistake of thinking I was entitled to the same respect as everyone else when I posted on Reddit recently, in a stepmom sub, about being a stepmom and its troubles.
Nope. I got eviscerated by a few people who claimed I "just hated all young people."
Does this happen to anyone else when they try to get advice on other stepmom sites? It was so out of the blue and hateful I was taken aback. I forgot how awful mainstream people can be to us. Still can't figure out why being frustrated with badly behaved step kids is such a trigger for people.
In the last episode of "Crazy forced SD14 to come to our house and she went feral", DH had put on his rose-colored glasses and done a 180 and was all "I want to make things work with SD" and had changed his mind about filing for an emergency custody change to give Crazy full custody because I had found an intensive 4hr/day intensive therapy program which would magically undo the aggressive PAS she has been exhibiting. Since then:
- We are still waiting for SD to have the evaluation, so we're not sure if/when she will be starting this program.
SD21 is the one that lives with BM, doesn't drive, and works 2 days a week. She sees a therapist who ignores the fact that she has bipolar like her dad, and instead tells her she is autistic and adhd and has an anxiety disorder and is agoraphobic. Basically this idiot confirms whatever diagnosis she tell him she thinks she has.
We are nearing the end of SS12's visit for summer. He goes home on Sunday.
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