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I posted a few months ago my frustration with my job and especially my coworker who is my boss's daughter. Well, not only did I get a bonus this month which was another one of my complaints, but my boss called me today to tell me her daughter has quit. I am SO EXCITED. She apparently kind of backstabbed her mom (my boss) because she had no idea she was looking or anything. She also felt like she was unable to take ownership of projects after her one project just ran out and was instead assisting my other coworker and myself.
Need others thoughts on this one if were being over dramtic or something. My 15 yr old SD lives with us 75% of the time and goes to her moms for all school breaks except thanksgiving. She is with her mom now they live 11 hrs away. My SD reposted on Facebook a photo her mom took. The photo was my SD laying on her stomach next to her stepdad on a bed with her top half laying on the side of his chest . hes on his his back and one arm around her. she was in booty shorts ant a tanktop. her 18 year old brother is on the other side or the stepdad laying on his side up againt the stepdad.
We leave on Wed night for a long weekend with my ILs to celebrate our nephews HS graduation.
SIL just called my bride. From the second DW answered it was clear that something was up. SIL was in her pouty sullen voice which is a major tell when she is up to something.
After 30mins of random meandering topical discussion, SIL asked DW if we would go to dinner with her and her girl friend.
SIL is not even divorced from her DH and is trying to pimp her GF to my wife in some kind of begging for approval thing. DW is flumoxed.
I came across this and LOVE it:
Repeat after me: We do not beg to sit at tables we were not invited to.
We do not chase people who exclude or ignore us.
We do not seek healing from those who hurt us.
We do not set ourselves on fire to keep others warm.
We create our own circle.
We surround ourselves with only those who truly love, understand, and respect us.
We learn where to express our energy.
We remember our self-worth.
-Dr. Jessica Taylor
We spent a week with our son. We have not seen him in a year and a half. It was great to see him. There was the occassional spark of him that burned through but overall he is struggling with mental illness. A very sad thing.
So with previous advice on this site, I have taken SD11, SS13 and BM out of my head. I deactivated any social platforms they are on and blocked both SD and BM on my Snapchat. Not that I use it much.
Then I spoke with DH and we are in a bit of a fork in the road situation. Long story short - we are moving!!
I am so excited as we will be moving 7 hours away from BM for DH work. This means no more FIFO! My DH can come home to me and our 3 babies every night now.
Thursday SD18 had a pinning ceremony at her school because she will be graduating with her CNA. She is going to college for nursing so she has this little step up already.
SD told us BM will be attending… whatever we don’t care. I assumed her mom would be attended with her for back up.
We really haven’t seen her since SS20s high school graduation in 2022. We saw her last year, but she sat far away in a corner as she only attended one of SDs lacrosse games last year.
I said to SO I wouldn’t be surprised if her or her lunatic mother say something to him....
I realize the following is probably just everyday, typical BS in step-hell but it still feels outrageous.
So here is what happened: DH and I were having a chat about how far we've come (nearly 20 years together) and where we are now and so on and so forth, when out of the blue, he tells me that last year OSD28 asked him to spend 4 weeks with her traveling, just the two of them, OVER CHRISTMAS. He said he turned her down, for obvious reasons. The audacity of these SDiablas has no bounds.
I realize child support is somethign the courts deem necessary. We have a 50/50 situtation, BM works at a restaurant and has claimed minimal income (tips not being tracked) and we know she receives support from her parents in general. The first time child support was establishe, luckily the magistrate saw through her, and told her a woman with her education and age should be able to find a full time job making at least $20 an hour, and was going to assign her that amount as her income. That was a huge win for us, becaue she brough a W2 sayign she only makes 20K a year.
SD's 28&26 are still traveling outside of the USA although OSD has split off and gone her own way and left YSD on her own. I completely thought YSD would crash and burn immediately, so I have been pleasantly surprised that as far as I know, she is getting by on her own. After months of ongoing, unannounced SD "pop-ins," these past few months have been pure bliss. NO SD drama. For those of you wondering, "Is this step-hell all worth it?" THIS is the time one waits for.
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