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"You are the worst StepParent EVER"

1st3rd5thWEInHell's picture

A quote directly from the horses mouth...

I have heard this now for a decade...

I kept track of visitation and pick up/drop offs, organized activities for children, bought phones, clothes, beds, mattresses, set up rooms, tvs, a console, encouraged and rooted for good relationships with both parents, etc

The moment I corrected or demanded respect of my boundaries, I was the worst stepparent and I was told by children, BMs and my husband that I have no right to tell off the children or put them in time out

 

I am broken - Life in ZombieLand

1st3rd5thWEInHell's picture

I always tell myself to blog on this site but the amount of events that happen to me in relation to StepLife are so vast that I am unable to find time to sit and document it

Today, I am in a really dark place. Actually its been a few months but I think today may be that I am in a deep hole....Kind of where I was back in 2017 after experiencing physical and mental abuse from OSS22 (a teenager back then)

I am sitting in bed after work....I took a nap...while napping, my husband was next to me talking to his ex wifes son.

Backstory:

Checking In

la_dulce_vida's picture

DD30 starts her new job on Monday. She's been making the most of her last week of joblessness.

I had a nice 4-day weekend and went on a road trip with a good friend. We just meandered down to North Carolina to go to a brewery with a naughty name in honor of my dear friend who died 2 years ago in December. Said friend's birthday is this coming Sunday, so she's on my mind.

We had such a blast.

It's been almost 7 weeks since the breakup with zero communication. I also stopped looking at XBF's dating profile nearly a month ago (tomorrow).

OT - Petty Employers Laid Me Off (I think) w/o notice

Lillywy00's picture

So I have yet to get an answer from my sociopathic managers regarding my employment status since Monday when I went to log in and saw a blank schedule. 
 

I did email Human Capital to ask them about severance pay and they emailed me back with a "transition guide" 

Bruh ... wtf?!? 
 

Idk if it's legal to just lay people off with no notice but I'm considering consulting with an attorney about this for multiple reasons. 
 

OT is this weird?

classyNJ's picture

For background - I have known my DH since our teens.  We were really good friends.  He has a legal name (let's say Joseph) but that is only used by employers and anything else legal.  His mother gave him a nickname when he was little that is really not related to his real name (lets go with Richy).   Both of us got married very young (20).  He was at my first wedding and he got married a week later.  Only a few very close friends and family know that he was married.  The SS's do not know unless DBDB told them, but they never said anything.

Setting up new rules & boundaries

HeadFirst's picture

I raised an adult daughter. It was just me and her most of her life. This is my first serious BF with kids.

My BF has 3 kids he gets 50/50 with a narcissist BM, 10 yo girl, 6 & 17 yo boys. 

BF bought a house recently and we are preparing to move in together. We've been together a yr and the kids LOVE me (BM different story lol) and I love them as well

So the current situation - the court order is no overnights unless engaged or married (BM does whatever she wants, but usually dumps the kids to her parents on weekends)

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Help please

countrygirl143's picture

It's been over 8 years dealing with my stepdaughter. She's approaching 12 and my god it's getting worse by the day with her. 
I can honestly say I treat her as my own child, always have and always will. Now, she is unbelievably disrespectful. It's obviously learned behavior with so much evidence that it is. Her mother allows and knows she gives attitude, disrespects her father, and treats him like shit.

The return of Goofy?

AlmostGone834's picture

I swear I just read this on here by someone and now practically the same thing has happened with Little Idiot. 
 

Little Idiot posted a selfie. And to people not in the know, there nothing odd about it. She's showing off the cross of Jesus necklace that I saw she JUST bought on our Amazon account. And... she's BACK AT GOOFY's house.

 Yup.

Has anyone or anyone's SO had marriage annulled by Catholic Church

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

DH and I have decided that we will be baptizing our child in the Catholic Church. I was raised Catholic and other than being married in the Catholic Church, have received all the sacraments I can at this point in life. DH was raised and baptized Baptist, but does not fully align with Baptist's beliefs and practices. Over the past weekend we met with the priest of our local Catholic Church and have decided that not only will we baptize our child in the Catholic Church, but that DH will do the steps to have his marriage to BM annulled by the Catholic Church.

Keeping Employment Status To Myself … for now

Lillywy00's picture

One of my no boundary relatives (who always tries to demand immediate or next day meetups) asked to come over ... at the  end of the week (because they assume I'm working for my employer) lol!!!

I'm thinking to myself "wow sufficient advance notice for once in their lives" but I realize that when people think you create your own schedule (ex self employed), you are not working for employer, you're stay at home parent, etc they assume they can bombard your time. 
 

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