So with previous advice on this site, I have taken SD11, SS13 and BM out of my head. I deactivated any social platforms they are on and blocked both SD and BM on my Snapchat. Not that I use it much. 
 

Then I spoke with DH and we are in a bit of a fork in the road situation. Long story short - we are moving!! 
I am so excited as we will be moving 7 hours away from BM for DH work. This means no more FIFO! My DH can come home to me and our 3 babies every night now. 

DH said he will be driving back to the city once a month to see the skids. But I told him I won't be coming, maybe every second month. So this means I keep my children close to me and away from the toxic mess. In school holidays we will have the skids for a week but at least there won't be any BM in the wings. 

Unfortunately for SS, it seems he is now BMs new pawn to play with. There is a bit of drama surrounding him as he's chosen a football club that his mother and her father don't agree with. BM changed her mind when my DH decided to play for the same club to be around SS and support him, and now she's there every weekend watching my DH play in her crop top showing off her cleavage. yuck.

BMs dad actually made comments to SS putting him down about his choice of moving sports clubs. BM said 'SD wouldn't dare play for another club' where SS then is now compared to SD as the bad grand child and SD is golden girl. SD told us that actually she does want to play sport in this new club but obviously too scared to rock the boat. Is any of this true? Who knows I have no head space for BM and skid drama. I didn't comment and DH is helping SS get through it. I don't want any part. 

For once I'm not the topic so all I said to DH was if BM had SS best interests at heart she would tell her father to not belittle her son and stick up for him instead of her playing him against SD. She's a narcissistic biatch so again, so glad we are moving out of here!! DD4 is super excited to be starting school soon and SS1 and my 2 month old are perfect ages to grow up in a community without any toxic siblings.