So every year I have been in my relationship with DH we have had the skids on BM's birthday. She never makes a time to see them, she just expects a phone call. DH has previously told her he has no issue with her taking them out for the day or even having them that night. He would want to do that if his birthday fell on her day. It's typical that she just wants to drink and party without making time for her kids to see her though. Now the skids are getting a bit older, the way they talk to her on the phone now is hilarious. BM has a brain of a 15 year old school girl.
 

Ugh I hate this day in school holidays. I'm trying to prepare dinner for tonight and DH and Toxic BM has not communicated to each other when she is arriving to pick the the skids. How hard is it to send a text and ask her?? DH just said to cook for them because no doubt she won't rock up till later tonight. It's supposed to be 3pm?? The time is 2.41pm as I type this! She better rock up and pick them up. It's their first day of school back tomorrow and she already texted earlier this week trying to get out of it but I put my foot down.

I uploaded a letter to child support proving we have SD 50/50 with many testimonials, including dates and times. I also included texts that proved DH and I had them. So stick that up your butt BM. I'm also helping DH to document neglect with the skids. I'm not 100% sure I would ever want DH to officially report neglect on BM due to the fact DH would get sole custody and I really don't want that. But, at the same time, I feel sorry for the skids in how they are living with BM.

We just had total lockdown over the weekend, and DH suggested we put up the Christmas Tree during this time. I was so keen to do this because we didn't have the skids and it would be perfect family time with me, my baby and my husband, and not shadowed by the skids. Then as each day passed he gave excuses to why we can't put it up that night, to the point now we get the skids tomorrow for a whole week. So I just suggested to him, let's put the tree up tonight and he said he now wants to do it when we get his kids.