Just wanted to put this down somewhere. SO went to his therapy session. He said it went well and he was not angry with me when he was through. This means one of two things. 1) she let him talk and didn't say much or 2) he was able to do his wonderful manipulation tactics. I have to go with 2. SS had his first travel team baseball practice for the season , now remember he will only be pitching because he does so terrible at batting. I guess he also pitched bad and now has to do more private pitching lessons. I am not grasping this at all.
I just saw on one of my local Facebook groups that a lady was asking how her ex can find someone to date. People are responding how sweet. Then it goes in to say they are best friends and have two kids that they coparent great together. I only saw one negative response that said maybe he should stop talking to his ex. Then she said we have to talk all the time because of the kids. I thought about responding and saying wait until I am out of this relationship and I will jump right in. LOL
I want to know what parenting or maybe divorce book says that only parents should be picking up their child? I am being sarcastic. Now I have begun to speculate more and more about what SO does because he is so manipulative to get his way about his kids.I suppose he was asked to pick SS up after the basketball game by BM and he didn't think he could because he was working . He got done sooner then expected and SS grandfather was picking him up . GP was already at the school waiting for him .
Do any of you have this issues with SO who has paid child support so long they don't even realize they are paying it and what they are paying it for? To me it seems like my SO doesn't understand that the monthly money he has been paying for 12 years is for things for the kids and there is nothing In writing that says he has to pay more for anything. But he pretty much pays for all SS sports and 1/2 of anything else that BM pays for. Like braces, car insurance (which he is basically overpaying) SD is on BMs insurance, glasses, etc.
SO takes SS to pitching lessons every other Sunday, but SS has started baseball practice at school on Saturdays. Which means SS is pitching on Saturdays and you should only be throwing so many times in so many days. Pitching coach canceled the lessons for today because why bother. SO said that is upset because at least he gets to spends a few minutes in the car with SS. Let me tell you I had to be in the car with SS yesterday for a few minutes and the way his mouth was so smart arse towrds his dad was unbearable.
Sorry if I am being bothersome but I have to say things on here because I have no one to turn too. SO siad the reason that SS is having problems with his entire group friends is that one of them paid the others to not talk to him. I said nothing because you know, it doesn't matter . But I am always curious. I would have asked step son again what actually happened and if he stuck with that story I would be calling the boys parents who paid the other kids.No one would be doing that to my child and me staying silent about it. Isn't this borderline bullying?
I want to end this relationship and don't know how. He was supposed to make an appointment with the therapist and didn't. I asked him today and he got defensive. He isn't going to call I am sure. If he won't do this to save us then why should I.He believes all is good. SS is becoming poor poor baby because his friends don't like him and baseball is ramping up. BM is now texting again non stop. I don't want a huge argument when I tell him I am leaving but I am a bigger person then just walking out. And we do have some financial things that would need figured out.
What is going on that so many of us right now are in these crappy situations. It seems like we have a lot of negatives with our partners and it it getting worse not better. Ugh
I think maybe I have put all the blame on SO and his dysfunction when it was me all along. I think what it is is that I don't want someone with kids and an ex. I don't care for his baggage. That is his life and I am the one to blame because I just keep trying to make him change it and I shouldn't. I just need to leave and stop being the bad guy that i obviously am.