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Submitted by RockyRoads on Tue, 03/12/2024 - 5:40am

What is wrong with me. Why am I not out of this relationship. And why am I not worth SO putting an end to what he does?SO will not put up the boundaries with BM and kids like he was told by the therapist.  He won't stop. He continues to let BM text him every day. Yesterday it was about something SS said to a coach( it wasn't mean this time)Okay if you can't control BM you can control your own fingers and not text her back. But he did . Now baseball season had started and it will give her very easy reasons to Text because of pick ups and asking if SO is going to the games.

Venting about manipulation

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Mon, 03/04/2024 - 9:33am

I am just venting because I need to.  And yes I know I need to just leave but anyway. SD gets to go across country for doing excellent on a school project. It was unexpected and is running approximately $1200 and is coming up fast.  SO gave $200 for it and was going to pay for the other $400 in a week or so. Now there is nothing that says he has to do this but it is his daughter so he was, this is fine. But then SO get a text forwarded to him from BM saying that SS final payment for travel baseball is due.

More of my complaining

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Thu, 02/22/2024 - 4:06pm

Most of you know SS is having friend issues. I wanted to know if about 100 texts in two days between bios seem normal, all it is is them bitching back and forth, all about SS ,but there is no resolve? Is this a normal parent problem and I shouldn't care about the texting?

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Mon, 02/19/2024 - 7:15am

Just wanted to put this down somewhere. SO went to his therapy session. He said it went well and he was not angry with me when he was through. This means one of two things. 1) she let him talk and didn't say much or 2) he was able to do his wonderful manipulation tactics.  I have to go with 2.  SS had his first travel team baseball practice for the season , now remember he will only be pitching because he does so terrible at batting. I guess he also pitched bad and now has to do more private pitching lessons.  I am not grasping this at all.

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sat, 02/17/2024 - 7:10pm

I just saw on one of my local Facebook groups that a lady was asking how her ex can find someone to date.  People are responding how sweet. Then it goes in to say they are best friends and have two kids that they coparent great together.  I only saw one negative response that said maybe he should stop talking to his ex.  Then she said we have to talk all the time because of the kids.  I thought about responding and saying wait until I am out of this relationship and I will jump right in.  LOL

I want this to end -more I don’t understand

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Fri, 02/09/2024 - 7:24am

I want to know what parenting or maybe divorce book says that only parents should be picking up their child?  I am being sarcastic. Now I have begun to speculate more and more about what SO does because he is so manipulative to get his way about his kids.I suppose he was asked to pick SS up after the basketball game by BM and he didn't think he could because he was working . He got done sooner then expected and SS grandfather was picking him up .  GP was already at the school waiting for him .

When child support means nothing

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sun, 02/04/2024 - 9:40am

Do any of you have this issues with SO who has paid child support so long they don't even realize they are paying it and what they are paying it for?  To me it seems like my SO doesn't understand that the monthly money he has been paying for 12 years is for things for the kids and there is nothing In writing that says he has to pay more for anything. But he pretty much pays for all SS sports and 1/2 of anything else that BM pays for. Like braces, car insurance (which he is basically overpaying) SD is on BMs insurance, glasses, etc.

Almost laughable but it is so very sad

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sun, 02/04/2024 - 7:47am

SO takes SS to pitching lessons every other Sunday, but SS has started baseball practice at school on Saturdays. Which means SS is pitching on Saturdays and you should only be throwing so many times in so many days. Pitching coach canceled the lessons for today because why bother. SO said that is upset because at least he gets to spends a few minutes in the car with SS. Let me tell you I had to be in the car with SS yesterday for a few minutes and the way his mouth was so smart arse towrds his dad was unbearable.

What could have happened?

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sun, 01/28/2024 - 3:59pm

Sorry if I am being bothersome but I have to say things on here because I have no one to turn too. SO siad the reason that SS is having problems with his entire group friends is that one of them paid the others to not talk to him. I said nothing because you know, it doesn't matter . But I am always curious. I would have asked step son again what actually happened and if he stuck with that story I would be calling the boys parents who paid the other kids.No one would be doing that to my child and me staying silent about it.  Isn't this borderline bullying? 

I want to end this

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sat, 01/27/2024 - 7:43pm

I want to end this relationship and don't know how. He was supposed to make an appointment with the therapist and didn't. I asked him today and he got defensive. He isn't going to call I am sure.  If he won't do this to save us then why should I.He believes all is good.  SS is becoming poor poor baby because his friends don't like him and baseball is ramping up. BM is now texting again non stop. I don't want a huge argument when I tell him I am leaving but I am a bigger person then just walking out. And we do have some financial things that would need figured out. 

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