Again, my SS is almost 16, on the better functioning end of the spectrum with some flavor of ADHD.
In the past weeks it had been a crazy struggle with this kid. On the one hand I understand that at his age, he wants to be independent and start finding his place. On the other hand, he ONLY wants to be independent in expressing his opinion (not a bad thing) and expecting people to do things his way (not that much a good thing), and not anything else. (Doesn't know when he needs to eat, clean, what kind of clothes to wear, keep losing everything...etc)
So..as I was walking through what SS will need to do tomorrow, we happened to touch on a few more other things, including his long shower without soap (see other post for this. What bothers me was the water waste, but per SS15 he thinks not knowing how to shower correctly is something embarrassing and would rather us not to talk to his therapist about it).
Out of all of the topic, SS made a snarky and creepy comment:
SS: So...I have a question for you
SS: So...what was the thumping noise in your room the other day?
SS15 decided he didn't need soap when showering. This is not the first, second, or even third time we've gone through this. Oh and somehow he still needed 15 mins of hot shower with just water.
and we wonder why his room smells lol
He has always been wasting water like this (other acts involve flushing toilet when there is nothing to flush), and It really bothers me.
SS15 recently started the new "I can't hear you" game with me.
It doesn't matter I was talking in a quiet environment, he "just can't hear me". He was always able to hear me right away if I was to take away shit with the same volume though, how intriguing. Basically he "can't" hear me when I talk nicely to him, and in his mind I am the bad guy when I raise my volume losing my patience when I have to tell him the same thing 3 times.
This weekend we went out of town to celebrate ss15's bday. Its been a while that we did anything for either kid's birthday and ss has been wanting to go to an amusement park. DH wanted to surprise ss so we booked a trip to a bigger park that's farther from home, and we were staying in a hotel for two nights for this trip.
2022 has been very busy and stressful, to add on top of the stress we have to move because our landlord plans to move back. We were able to find a home very quickly and start to plan things around, and DH told SS stb 15 today that we will be moving soon.
SS stb 15 lies about everything.
The latest event was lying about his presentation attire had to be black. It's really stupid because had he really just stated that it was his preference it would still have been done for him. We asked so many times whether his suit had to be black and he insisted "the teacher said it has to be." We told him if it is him who likes it to be black we will get it too. But no, it is the teacher.
SS just got another zero in Spanish. This is the subject we tried so hard to help him learn. This is the subject where we asked him to create Flashcards for himself but he tried to cheat by bleeding the sharpie color to the other side so he could see the answer and get them right.
But we are so abusive, I guess we should just let it be. (I'm just being petty now, haha)
I really don't know, and can never understand how SS is not even feeling bad getting 3 zeros in a row.
SS14 stb 15 lies about everything, but it's never his fault. In his mind, if he tells the truth eventually, we should all be thanking him and praising him. It doesn't matter how many times the importance of honesty is explained to him. It is always our fault, or the teachers' fault that he had to lie.
Actually not as angry as before. Just tired.
SS14 has no idea how to study. His "studying" is just staring into the computer and wait for the time to pass. He doesn't know how to take notes. He is currently failing 2 classes.
Helping him learn how to study has been really difficult. He can't make a plan himself, he has no goals either. On top of that he likes to complain about how hard he's worked-- although he really has not.