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I’m just being petty but I need to let it out.

EveryoneLies's picture

2022 has been very busy and stressful, to add on top of the stress we have to move because our landlord plans to move back. We were able to find a home very quickly and start to plan things around, and DH told SS stb 15 today that we will be moving soon. 

Immediately SS wanted/asked to have the "extra room" as his HW room (there is no extra room, we both work from home and for the past few years I am the only person who has no room for herself in the whole household). He then asked about restroom, clearly also wanted to "claim" one to be his own. (Not necessarily a bad idea, since we all have to tolerate his pee on the toilet seat now, just the selfish thoughts are hard to ignore)

I get that he's on the spectrum, I just really can't stand how selfish he can be. This is not the first time, last time he asked whether I can give him my condo (the whole condo!) to him since I was to move out and no longer needed it. He was under 10 so at least that was more forgivable. (apparently I'm no forgiving person haha) 5 years have gone by and the boy is still the same. 

DH shut him real quick, and reminded him how much the rent is and SS is contributing to none. (Not that we need them to contribute, just at least not to be so selfish maybe??) I am just still not able to get over this yet ...I'm going to blame this on my monthly. 

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JRI's picture

How old is he?  Kids can be so selfish and clueless.  Feel free to vent on, we all do.

EveryoneLies's picture

He is going to be 15 soon. 

I've been saying all the time that having no space of my own in the house is driving me nuts. But SS never hears it (surprise!lol). If there is an extra room he's gonna ask for it. Again there is no extra room - new house has the same number of rooms as this current one. I don't know why SS only realized that today. (Shrug)

Thanks for listening..

JRI's picture

Steptalk often makes me cringe as I remember my own cluelessness as a teen.   I remember my mother one time exclaiming, "You're not the only person living in this house!"  I cant remember why, whatever it was seemed very minor to my teenage mind.

EveryoneLies's picture

I mean...

We all have the moments where we were clueless..like our teenage years. But seriously never once in my life I'd demand things like this (more space! Bigger room!) without the intend to pay more. I have my selfish moments but I've never told my parents their things are mine. I don't have a step parents but I won't demand things like that with them if I have step parents either. 

I didn't even grow up with my own room lol 

I just can't wait for him to move out and experience how this kind of talk with his roommates will pan out.

Dogmom1321's picture

When DH and I bought a house, SD (at the time 10) had her own bedroom and also a dedicated playroom. She also wanted to know if she could have an "art studio." DH immediately jumped in "You have a playroom that you don't even use because you don't use toys, you just use the iPad!" SD needed DH to be VERY direct for her to "get it." Not too long after, we turned the unused playroom into a fitness room. SD wasn't using it as a playroom when she was even here. Then it sat untouched the other 50% of the time she wasn't even at our house. Kids can be totally clueless. 

stepmomnorth's picture

Lol, art studio!! My step daughter begged her father to turn their 1800s farmhouse basement into a "music studio" for her. Carpet, drywall, etc. This is a wet older house basement and it would cost thousands. He told her this and she still kept at it. The thought was ridiculous!! The thought of that old basement as a music studio makes me laugh!!  Blum 3

EveryoneLies's picture

Glad your DH just shut that idea down right away lol.

Although we don't let the kids know how much we make (non of their business), we do let them know how much things cost. It just never sinks in to SS's mind anyway. 

stepmomnorth's picture

When we moved into our house my SS, now 16, "demanded" his own room because "he's a teenager and needs space". Let's just say with 5 teenagers this was not possible. He had to share a room. We just laughed and said "nope." This was a kid who came to visit only every other weekend. 

EveryoneLies's picture

Haha!

Needs your own space? Pay your own way! Gotta say I'm a bit surprised this is somewhat common. My SS lives with us all the time and he already has his own room, but he wants that "extra room" for himself too. It's so ironic, when I went touring the home all I thought about was how to be fair between the two kids (we didn't take the kids to tour the homes), when all my SS is thinking is just how to make himself more comfortable...and he said he's been thinking about it for a while! Gosh.

EveryoneLies's picture

Our rent is over 4K, I told him I'd trade with him if he just pays half of that. That stopped the thought right away.