Ss seems dedicated in not putting any effort
Ss16, ADHD +ASD.
we just came back from an amazing vacation (without the kids), and just one day in the house with ss completely nullified the whole after-vacay effect.
ss has just been reading online or physical coming books during his class time. Not completing class work, doesn't correct homework, and surprised when he got Ds and Cs in tests. (Even one F, but the teacher let him retake and he was able to make it a B)
when we address these issue at home, he'd be all teary and saying he now knows that he should be putting in more effort. This is nothing new though, he has been saying this since 7th grade, nothing has changed.
DH got really frustrated/angry at times and told ss that he will not support ss after he turned 18, if ss doesn't get into college. DH also told ss that he will be on his own, out of this house if ss is not in college.
And ss decided to write these into his film script assignment. Lines like "once you are 18 you will be kicked out and no one will help you" or "you are just a moron" ( we never said that to him). In his mind he is the victim. If we follow him around and make sure he complete all task he thinks he doesn't get the trust he deserves (doesn't matter that he was the one to destroy that trust). If we don't follow around, he think we don't offer the help he needs (or worse, we refuse to help him, how dare we!)
Ss constantly hold onto the angry words DH said, twist the meanings, and blame DH (or me) for his own failures.
maybe I'm looking into this too much, but I'm very emotionally tired and angry. It is that people constantly trying to help him, and he just doesn't seem to appreciate.
i really wish all these will end by him moving out at 18. But at this rate ss will most likely be homeless unless his mother takes him.