So obviously SS15 (almost 16) just think things that he "found" in the house are automatically his.
This week he had stolen his dad's expensive earbuds (and lied about it) because he lost the good pair DH gave him and clearly he "found" those on the couch. He had also taken DH's newly bought shoes and decided to go run in the dirt. Those were brand new and DH hasn't even tried on. Now they are in dirt because he "thought" those are for him.
Basically, anything shiny, new, in this house that he wants are for him, in his mind.
Lying about grades? This happens daily.
Again, my SS is almost 16, on the better functioning end of the spectrum with some flavor of ADHD.
In the past weeks it had been a crazy struggle with this kid. On the one hand I understand that at his age, he wants to be independent and start finding his place. On the other hand, he ONLY wants to be independent in expressing his opinion (not a bad thing) and expecting people to do things his way (not that much a good thing), and not anything else. (Doesn't know when he needs to eat, clean, what kind of clothes to wear, keep losing everything...etc)
So..as I was walking through what SS will need to do tomorrow, we happened to touch on a few more other things, including his long shower without soap (see other post for this. What bothers me was the water waste, but per SS15 he thinks not knowing how to shower correctly is something embarrassing and would rather us not to talk to his therapist about it).
Out of all of the topic, SS made a snarky and creepy comment:
SS: So...I have a question for you
SS: So...what was the thumping noise in your room the other day?
SS15 decided he didn't need soap when showering. This is not the first, second, or even third time we've gone through this. Oh and somehow he still needed 15 mins of hot shower with just water.
and we wonder why his room smells lol
He has always been wasting water like this (other acts involve flushing toilet when there is nothing to flush), and It really bothers me.
SS15 recently started the new "I can't hear you" game with me.
It doesn't matter I was talking in a quiet environment, he "just can't hear me". He was always able to hear me right away if I was to take away shit with the same volume though, how intriguing. Basically he "can't" hear me when I talk nicely to him, and in his mind I am the bad guy when I raise my volume losing my patience when I have to tell him the same thing 3 times.
This weekend we went out of town to celebrate ss15's bday. Its been a while that we did anything for either kid's birthday and ss has been wanting to go to an amusement park. DH wanted to surprise ss so we booked a trip to a bigger park that's farther from home, and we were staying in a hotel for two nights for this trip.
As mentioned before, we are moving.
SS has the history of just throws some random things in a box (trash included) then seal it and consider it done. We told him not to seal a box that's not full (also don't use the largest box for all the books, common sense you'd think). But of course he doesn't give a f.
As we are moving, the kids were tasked to help with moving things to the new place.
After a long time of fighting with SS (DH fighting with SS, i was not part of it. It was a fight because SS likes to pretend he has no strength to move anything despite already being taller than me), we took the kids to have some ice cream.
As we all were eating the treat, SS14 stb 15 said:
"It was really nice that she (cold stone worker) made me the ice cream"
....I am just.
SS stb 15 has shorter school days these week because of finals. He was immediately asking DH to pick him up after school. We asked why he cannot take the bus back home (he takes the bus to school), he told us because the bus won't come until an hour later. Truth is, that specific bus won't come until another hour, but other buses will come and can also get him home.
I sometimes think the IEP accommodations aren't always helpful to the students.