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My DS is about to pop the question to his wonderful, gorgeous girlfriend. We are anticipating a winter wedding next year (we are in the south).
My SDs, in their 40's, have to loved to make me feel that I am not family. Either via exclusionary tactics or by outright telling me that I am not.
Well, that goes both ways.
Now they are concerned about this wedding. Texting DH lots of questions, when it's not even been finalized yet.
Why do they care? If I am not family, then my son sure isn't family. In fact, OSD has not seen my son in almost 10 years.
My son was missing a hoodie. He said he hasn't seen it since Christmas, and asked if it could have been put in SS's room. They wear the same size, so I said it was possible- go look.
BS came down stairs a couple of minutes later and handed me a refill pack for a vape. He said it was in one of the drawers also stuffed with food. We have a strict no food in rooms policy- I honestly don't know what pissed me off more- Food being shoved in a dresser or knowing that SS was vaping at our house.
YSD will be returning from her grandparents. Since she has made it abundantly clear her issue with me is that I "act like a parent." I have taken it upon myself to correct this aweful behavior I have that causes her so much distress.
I have now re-estblished my role as her non parental landlord and will refer to myself as such.
I have written up an owner/occupant contract. Which states as the occupant of said residence. YSD is required to maintain the property by the standards listed in the contract and the owner reserves the right to inspect the property at any time.
Some back story - by the 2nd year (2019) of moving into our current house, we realized someone had tried to break-in through the doors on the back of the house. Now, the back door to the kitchen could have happened before we moved in and we never noticed (someone tried to pop the lock with a screwdriver), but the french door to the living room absolutely happened after we moved in. And I'm absolutely certain it was my SS.
And so it begins...now that BM has a new boyfriend she has begun her manipulations to change visitation times. It started with her just changing all the dates that she entered into the OFW calendar without notifying DH and then telling him they agreed to follow that calendar (they didn't) and that those dates had been on the calendar for over a year (they were added on October 23rd according to OFW).
So, Saturday afternoon, DH says to me, "ASS got in an accident this morning." I ask for more information, you know, like, is he okay, what happened, blah blah blah.
Turns out he was driving from Austin to Dallas to look for an apartment when he hit a patch of black ice on the freeway, spun out, hit a semi, and slammed into the median wall thing. He is fine, airbags deployed, a few cuts and scratches, but otherwise fine.
BM is so beyond angry that my husband isnt' going to split the cost of SDs extracurricular activity with her.
She went on a rambling rant through their court ordered communication app stating that the "measly" child support he pays barely supports SD, that multiple professionals have called my husband "crazy" (this never happened) and to sum it up, she actually called my 3 year old ugly.
BM has to be one of the most miserable people on the planet.
DH monitored the weather for BM's state this morning at 5 a.m. It stated that travel was severely dangerous, almost impossible with 8 to 10 inches of snow possible. Well guess who is on her way to pick SS up as we speak...
I should have known it was too good to be true, ultimately just another game. BM is going to be spending 8 hours on the road in this blizzard and would rather endanger SS's life than give DH more time.
Thank you. It may be odd to be the first words you read from a stranger who's blog just started; but I wanted to express my gratitude right away. For awhile I've needed an ear to bend about step parenting. At time of writing I am in my early 30s and a step mom of two teens. Perhaps it is the fact that they are teens I am screaming out, although I recall a few instances in their younger years I would have liked some guidance. I'm here now though.
Super awkward cuz I’m laying on the couch watching a movie with my husband and 10 yr old step daughter and they are cuddled up together her leg on top of his while I’m sitting in the corner of the couch. Just weird feeling like a third wheel with my own husband on valentine’s day. Can anyone relate? And what did you do about it? It’s always like this where I’m just on the corner and they are snuggled up together so I tend to not even bother watching movies with them. Just feels weird.