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As it stands, we've been coexisting in our little studio for now. It's a little cramped since we didn't expect DH to get into a trucking accident so soon, but we're keeping busy.
Yesterday DH gets a call and being the place is so tiny, I could hear him speaking low. I went up to get something and to confirm if he was on the phone and he's there asking "how much is it for your card?" and then "okay, I'll send it now", then "Love you too". Won't make eye contact like a scared puppy.
SS12 has been playing football since he was 5. BM made this her hill to die on to prevent additional long distance visitation, citing that SS couldn't miss football in the summer to be with DH. The courts agreed. So, per our CO, we are entitled to 4 weeks of summer visitation, which is SUPPOSED to be exercised in two 2 week blocks, but the CO gives BM the power to break it up, if it interferes with sports. The CO states that DH HAS to accommodate it, no choice. So unfortunately, BM has all the power to dictate our summer visitation and we essentially have to agree. It sucks.
So, SD has been away at college and we have had super limited contact which has been amazing! The few times we have had to see her....
!). We went to Parent's Weekend at her college (it is about 5 hours away). She and her "boyfriend" (will discuss this in a bit) had lunch with us on Friday and that was pretty much the amount of time she spent with us. We sat down at lunch and she immediately said that my sorority is a bunch of drunk sluts and all they do is party. ;) BM was also on campus that weekend... so you can imagine how lovely that was.
I found out why BM couldn't pick up YSD15 at practice. She had told DH that she 'had to get ready for her day.' I guess she had to make her lunch for work the following day. Not sure what kind of lunch she makes, but I or my husband make lunches almost daily for her 2 kids still in high school, and often dinner too. We manage most days, but like I said, I wanted a one time favor from her.
We fixed the sink BTW. It took 2 nights because DH had to go to Menards to get a tooI. We asked her for the favor on the 2nd night.
Before I realized I did NOT want to tell this to people who would most likely judge me ... I told my mom thinking she may have good advice
WRONG!!!
She immediately starts freaking out "OMG how are you going to get by" and all other fear-mongering bs
I feel like that job was just a stepping stone for what is next not the place I was supposed to retire (unless they were promoting me and paying me accordingly)
A quote directly from the horses mouth...
I have heard this now for a decade...
I kept track of visitation and pick up/drop offs, organized activities for children, bought phones, clothes, beds, mattresses, set up rooms, tvs, a console, encouraged and rooted for good relationships with both parents, etc
The moment I corrected or demanded respect of my boundaries, I was the worst stepparent and I was told by children, BMs and my husband that I have no right to tell off the children or put them in time out
I always tell myself to blog on this site but the amount of events that happen to me in relation to StepLife are so vast that I am unable to find time to sit and document it
Today, I am in a really dark place. Actually its been a few months but I think today may be that I am in a deep hole....Kind of where I was back in 2017 after experiencing physical and mental abuse from OSS22 (a teenager back then)
I am sitting in bed after work....I took a nap...while napping, my husband was next to me talking to his ex wifes son.
Backstory:
DD30 starts her new job on Monday. She's been making the most of her last week of joblessness.
I had a nice 4-day weekend and went on a road trip with a good friend. We just meandered down to North Carolina to go to a brewery with a naughty name in honor of my dear friend who died 2 years ago in December. Said friend's birthday is this coming Sunday, so she's on my mind.
We had such a blast.
It's been almost 7 weeks since the breakup with zero communication. I also stopped looking at XBF's dating profile nearly a month ago (tomorrow).
So I have yet to get an answer from my sociopathic managers regarding my employment status since Monday when I went to log in and saw a blank schedule.
I did email Human Capital to ask them about severance pay and they emailed me back with a "transition guide"
Bruh ... wtf?!?
Idk if it's legal to just lay people off with no notice but I'm considering consulting with an attorney about this for multiple reasons.
I raised an adult daughter. It was just me and her most of her life. This is my first serious BF with kids.
My BF has 3 kids he gets 50/50 with a narcissist BM, 10 yo girl, 6 & 17 yo boys.
BF bought a house recently and we are preparing to move in together. We've been together a yr and the kids LOVE me (BM different story lol) and I love them as well
So the current situation - the court order is no overnights unless engaged or married (BM does whatever she wants, but usually dumps the kids to her parents on weekends)
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