Woe is me. As predicted SD hit up DH to go out to do something with (just) her today. I was happy to have some time to do my own thing BUT considering our history where she has said she is "not going if THEY are going" and "I don't know THEM and don't want to know THEM" (meaning me and my BK's) her excluding attitude is still sh*tty. She stayed for dinner which means we got take-out because I am not cooking and cleaning for La Diabla. I just found out that she may be staying in town for an extra week due to issues back at her state of residence.
We survived the holidays relatively unscathed, mostly because young adult Las Diablas spent limited time here. Still, they managed to fit in full-on tantrums, jealous pouty whining about why isn't everything completely fair and equal, (welcome to life sweethearts) know-it-all, bossyness towards us in our own home with a sprinkling of misplaced venom towards my BD.
Over the years DD and DH have grown quite close. DD lives with us while in university. She has plenty of time with us and considers DH to be her main Father figure while SD's by choice, went to far away colleges, thank-god. When SD's were teens BM encouraged them to treat DH and I like a piece of crap and said horrible lies about us while simultaneously dumping them on us. (Even during her custodial time)
Much to my amusement, YSDiabla22, that threw a fit on our lawn a couple of days ago after DH told her it is rude to invite him out to a restaurant to eat and not me, is threatening to not come over for x-mas.
OSD is still coming AND she offered to bring a dish, nice!
I feel bad that DH has to deal with YSDiabla drama. But, if she really follows through I won't miss drama in my house on Christmas. Hopefully she enjoys staying with BM and they can carry on fighting like cats and dogs as usual.
Ok, I know I've been posting a lot but I am kind of enjoying the diversion of a place to blow off steam and the stupidity never ends so ... May as well talk about it. SD21 is turning 22. BM just sent DH a text that SD21 "made it abundantly clear" that she does NOT want to celebrate her birthday with BM and OSD. The 3 of them BM, OSD and YSD are all fighting over there as if they are all little children. BM claims she doesn't know why YSD21 is upset.
We went to Thanksgiving dinner with DH's brother and SIL. BM isn't invited to family events but still insists on interjecting tokens of her presence. This time she had SD21 bring a ugly, wilted bouquet of flowers. I know this is "the small stuff" and I'm lucky not to have to spend time with BM present at family events but it still makes my blood boil. I guess I just need a good vent and would like to know how you would handle it? DH told SD21 that she had to be the one to take the flowers in since neither he nor I are thrilled with dealing with BM's "gift" of flowers.