My SD59 was here today.  DH83 has her come over about once a week to help with gardening and housework.  It's a way he can legitimize the $ he gives her.  She's a hairdresser, so she also cuts his hair.  Plus, he wants to see her in person to monitor how she's doing.  I have been disengaged from her for about 4 years due to the theft, lying, drug use and hell she put us through during a 10- month stay.

I understand today is Mother's Day in Britain, I didn't realize you celebrated on a different day than in America. So, Happy Mother's Day!

This is a quite difficult day for many people.  So many of us pour time, energy, thought, money and emotion into our SKs and it hurts not to be recognized on Mother's Day.  We know we aren't the real moms and we understand divided loyalties but we often still feel saddened if our efforts aren't recognized.  Sometimes, our DHs arent good about gifts, mine wasnt.  And, often, the kids are too young to do anything on their own.  

It snowed about 8" here and the temp is around zero.  Three people offered to shovel for us last night, SD, OSS and GD.  DH83 turned them all down, said we would just huddle here for a day or so.  But he got out this morning before I got up and in his hard-headed way, shoveled a path to the car and started it for awhile.

There was a knock on the door about noon.  OSS had come anyway with a friend and shoveled everything else, the entire driveway and front walk.  I love OSS.

My SD59 was over today.  She had called last week with one of her huge exaggerations where she spun daughter's digestive problem into cancer.   During that call, I kept my cool and didnt buy into the hysterics.  At one point, she said, " I guess you must not be real sensitive like me"  So, I'm insensitive.