I posted the other day about SD59's plans for a Christmas gathering.  She talked about having it Saturday and inviting her 3 kids, 2 SOS, GGS4 and GGD 4 months, her brother (OSS) and wife and DH and me.  That's 10 adults and 2 kids in a small apartment.  She reeled off a menu of 5 or 6 dishes.  

Im a 75yo SM and this is for all of you who think 18 is a magic age when your troubles go away.

DH83 is the original Disney dad, now Disney grandfather.. One reason we are still in this house is because of the basement room which has its own bathroom and refrigerator.  Four of our 5 kids have come back at some time or other.  He likes to be able to offer that.

Im a mature BM & SM of 5.  We have been thru each and every step-hell & now DH is 83 and I am 75.  I read the blogs and forums and it all comes back so clearly and painfully.  I often wonder if all the time, effort, money and anguish were worth it.

My DS56 sent me an emsil:

"Mom, on this Thanksgiving eve, I wanted to take a moment to say THANK YOU ( to both yourself and DH).  You have ALWAYS put your kids first in your lives and made sacrifices for all of us (and continue to do so to this day)...THANK YOU for being such awesome, dedicated parents.

I honestly do not understand the drama queen dynamic.  Does anyone?

I have several in my family.  SD58 is the classic with her never-ending medical emergencies, volatile relationships and "pay attention to me!" antics.  Her daughter, SGD28 is another one though more functional.  She has husband, baby and career but from birth has demanded attention from everyone. She's a sweet, caring person but tiring to be around.  GD37 is another.  She is a kind soul but so energetic and, frankly, self-centeted.

Is this a genetic thing, or do we create them?