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Still waiting for the other shoe to drop

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Submitted by JRI on Fri, 05/23/2025 - 8:00pm

I accompanied SD63 to a doctor appointment about a month ago where he referred her to a neurologist for shaky hands and memory lapses and to a surgeon for removal of implants from her leaky, bloody, lumpy breasts.  At the time, she was waiting for results from heart tests and planning to see her orthopedist about a knee replacement since it's been giving out on her.

Shoe drop postponed

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Submitted by JRI on Tue, 05/06/2025 - 2:41pm

I've been waiting for the other shoe to drop since the day SD63 got referrals for her tremors and leaking, bleeding breast implants.  That was also the day she told me her car needed $800 in repairs to pass inspection and laid down all her other financial, medical and relationship problems.  In the meantime, I learned she has 2 upcoming court appearances for speeding, lapsed plates and no car insurance.  She was scheduled to be here today to pay her "rent' and I dreaded it 

Other shoe is getting ready to drop

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Submitted by JRI on Sat, 05/03/2025 - 1:37pm

I posted about SD63's recent Dr appt where she bombarded me with her health issues (tremors, leaking, infected breast implants, heart issues, knee requiring replacement along with the Barrett's esophagus, ulcer and anemia), car problems ("tell Dad it will cost $800 to get it to pass inspection") and  problems with her one remaining kid who still speaks to her.  Following that day, he and I both called several days to follow up but she never answered or returned calls.  I was waiting for the other shoe to drop.

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Submitted by JRI on Thu, 04/17/2025 - 9:03pm

SD63 has been quiet the past few months.  We see her early each month when she pays us her share of "rent" and cuts DH's hair.  For months now, we've seen her hands trembling.  I know she also had some kind of heart issue identified during a December hospital visit.  She was supposed to schedule further testing but never did.

She called Tuesday, had an appointment with her primary that day but car trouble.  I offered to take her since DH87 is not up to travel to unfamiliar destinations.  The trip was "eventful" in typical SD fashion with wrong exits, confusion and all the rest.

Adult kids

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Submitted by JRI on Sat, 03/22/2025 - 9:18pm

I'm looking at this from the divorced dad's perspective  but I'm missing a lot of info.  Anyway, my 80+ male neighbor died 10 months ago.  He married his wife, who was living there with her 1st husband, when we moved in 51 years ago.  They seemed very happy, she had been in a very limited situation and the new husband, R, was proud to take her to car races, out in his boat, etc 

Past and future

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Submitted by JRI on Sun, 12/22/2024 - 10:49am

I'm 80 but have had two glimpses of the future lately.  My grandson showed up with his Tesla and took me for a ride where I was terrified by him not driving the car.  It even parked itself!  Then, we ate at a restaurant where a robot brought our food.  Heaven only knows what the future will bring.

Getting ready for the big one - update

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Submitted by JRI on Fri, 12/20/2024 - 8:56pm

SD63 asked to come over this morning to update me on her situation.  This was so ominous, I've been dreading it all week.

Guess what?  She never showed and didn't call.  What a relief!

When she was here several days ago, she went through a long detailed organ recital about many serious conditions.  When she asked to come over, I said I hoped it wasn't about money cuz I was tapped out.  So, all week, I've been wondering, if its not health or money, what else?  I know she has probs with all 3 of her kids but DH87 and I always refuse to get involved.

Getting ready for the big one

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Submitted by JRI on Sat, 12/14/2024 - 11:37am

As expected, SS63 called requesting her Christmas $ early due to "bills, car trouble and my anxiety".  So, she came over yesterday.

She sat down and started her organ recital.  Then she asked if she could come over sometime and talk to me to let me know what's going on.  (My body said "Alarm, Alarm").  I said okay but I hope it wasn't about money cuz I'm about tapped out with Christmas and our real estate taxes are due.  She said, oh, no (a probable lie).  She started to talk about her recent flurry of medical tests 

Gifts for parents and grandparents

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Submitted by JRI on Tue, 12/03/2024 - 2:14pm

I posted gift suggestions for older adults last year but here it is again for new members.  DH87 and I 79 have all the "things" we need and, actually, we are trying to unload stuff on our poor kids, lol.  We still live independently in a middle class suburb.  I've also included suggestions other Steptalkers added last year.  Please feel free to add more.

Crossing my chubhy little fingers

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Submitted by JRI on Sat, 08/03/2024 - 10:17pm

We subsidize SD61Grifter's housing expense.  I hate it but its been worth it to get her out of my house 8 years ago.  I've thought and wondered for ages how to end it.  Last time we circled around the topic a couple years ago, The Grifter burst into tears, ran to the bathroom and DH87 turned on me and said, "Now she's going to kill herself!"

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