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Advice on how to keep SKIDs from living rent-free in your mind

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Submitted by ImperfectlyPerfect on Sun, 03/10/2024 - 3:11pm

Hey Steptalkers, what do you do to keep the SKIDs from living rent-free in your mind? How do you set yourself free from ruminating on the past, getting irritated with their dumb decisions or holding on to resentment when they mistreat you? Are there tips, activities, ways, activities or things to get them out of there? 

Been a while. Same old and some new.

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Submitted by Noway2b1 on Sun, 03/10/2024 - 12:04pm

I'm pretty disengaged from all things step now. Haven't seen DHs ex in over 3 years maybe 4? .
 

I didn't go to any of the weddings or wedding showers. This was my choice. Partly because my name was not included on the wedding invites for either granddaughter. Nor was I personally invited to the showers. I received very last minute messages via Facebook regarding them. The first one I already had plans at the time it was held. The second, following the same pattern of a day or two before I chose not to even respond this time to the message.

Sad and ironic

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Submitted by MJL2010 on Sun, 03/10/2024 - 8:45am

When BM moved to Fabuloustown and began crafting her new persona and alternate reality, 15 years ago...she was quick to mark her territory by making BFFs with all the twins' friends' moms. Most of them believed the version of DH and me that she presented them with. I remember being completely blanked by the moms in twins' friend group on the day of their middle school walkthrough. I found out yesterday that the meanest mom- the one I still remember staring at me hatefully that day, has since gotten divorced from her kids' dad.

In A Funk

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sat, 03/09/2024 - 6:57pm

I had a dream about BM and GF last night. They came to pick SS up and things got heated. I basically told them both everything I've been holding in for the last 10 years. These dreams happen maybe a few times a year, and I think it's my subconscious trying to vent all the anger and resentment I feel about my steplife situation. Since I can't really vent it aloud, it vents in my dreams. 

update

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Submitted by Sam2 on Sat, 03/09/2024 - 9:47am

Well update.       I had vented about my DD dropping out of High School , however, in driving away from High School after dropping out she decided to give the alternative school a try.  She was successful and has now completed High School and has applied to first a community college to transfer to a Four Year college once the GPA and some prereqs are completed.  My SS has successfully finished a year and half at a job however, he is having trouble with his sister and her boyfriend.  Neither of whom are working very much and definitely not supporting themselves.  They all live with the mothe

Back in our bed for 9 yo

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Submitted by alwayslast1978 on Sat, 03/09/2024 - 9:44am

My SS is 9 but lives like a 5 yo.  Sits on the couch all day every day.  Wont go or do anything without mommy.  Luckily, he is only here half the time so I compromise erand let it go.  My non negotiable has been our coming into our bed at night.  I hate it.  We stopped it at the start of Grade 3.  He woukd sleep with mummy every night if he could.  A week amd a half ago he had a tooth pulled and for some reason he came in at 2am.  I told my wife that it was ok as a one off but it isnt becoming a regular thing.  The next night he didnt come in but he did the night after that.  My wife took h

And now MIL gets involved in DH paying for college

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Sat, 03/09/2024 - 1:06am

To update my previous blog, DH replied to BM (via OFW) that he has not been working and cannot contribute to college costs right now. He said if his employment situation changes he can determine a contribution. He pointed out to BM that he never said he would continue to pay CS or take out a loan for SKid. He said if Skid took out a loan and his employment situation improved, he could help pay the loan back.

I know that it may appear that our blended family life was all conflict.

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 03/08/2024 - 1:26pm

It really was not.  DW, SS, and me had a wonderful life as a family while SS was growing up.  We had very little drama IRL. The drama was SpermClan generated. All we did was counter their crap.  We had to make that as painful as neccessary to force behavioral changes.  That took some number of years to figure out.  Once we did, it could be several years before they decided to roll out their old tricks. At which point we increased the pain settings and fried them.  The cycle could be annual, or as long as 3-ish years between their resurecting their toxic tricks.

Friday Freedom & Sunday Dread

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Submitted by PushedToMyLimit on Fri, 03/08/2024 - 11:19am

Like so many step parents who have their SK's FT I celebrate the 2 Friday's a month SS10 exits our home and think about the wonderful weekend ahead...but man it is always met with already thinking about the Sunday dread of his return. Hope if you are free of SK's this weekend you find some time to enjoy it, be thankful for even the small window of freedom and celebrate this page, which continues to help many of us stay sane & out of jail Smile

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