I know, I know... I need to step back. I don't know what got in my head this morning, other than I am pissed. Pissed at BM, Pissed at SS and Pissed that DH feels that it isn't even worth going on our trip if SS isn't there. I try and remind him that me and the 3 other are all looking forward to this trip and spending time with him, but he is just feeling incomplete without his other son, which I would feel the same way so, I do get it.
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It sounds like a lot of SM's on these blogs have a lot in common with me. I have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years and he has 2 kids, 4 and 8 that I was introduced to 9 months ago. At first I thought being a step parent might be a fun experience, then I realized a couple months later that I could not handle most situations with them. I love my sig. other but I do not have feelings for the kids. They are nice, but they have no manners, they're hyper, they are constantly chattering with each other and entertaining each other, and they are loud most of the time.
Lately the oldest has taken to asking SO and I if we are engaged yet. She’s not the only one. SO’s mother is pushing it, my mom is pushing it, and now her.
The thing is yes we plan to get married it’s just we’ve held off any plans until we took care of other things that needed to be handled first. In my case it’s my bankruptcy (my personal finical issue). SO’s divorce was finalized about a year ago and it’s only been the last few months that he’s had real job stability.
But I knew this. Do I love him any less? No. Is it aggravating? YES!
A couple months ago we got on the topic of my bios (BD19 & BS17) and DH expressed how they are just "really good kids".
And I agree, And I then stated, that I can't take all the credit for raising them, but I worked VERY hard to raise them the best I could. And I did. (I think) most mothers would feel this way. Did I always do everything right? Hell no. But I tried VERY HARD to raise them the best I knew how. Even thru a divorce and so on. Its tough being a mom.
So background. A few months ago we were at walmart, SD10 asked for some training bras, I saw absolutely ZERO harm in this. She's growing up, it's not like I'm buying her anything crazy, also I could get three of them for like $10. I even told DH I got them for her after and he didn't mind. She wore one of them like once and nothing else has happened since. SD10 is a tiny kid, super thin, small for her age (pretty sure it's from the years of neglect, she's spurted up since Psycho ditched and when DH got out of the military and she ditched them with him... Her growth is catching up!).
Hi all! Little update on my impending divorce and how I've been doing. I told my stbx that I am starting proceedings... I had been holding off while I got all my ducks in a row but spur of the moment told him a little earlier than planned.
I've been with SO for 3 years. SO moved in with me after 2 and we've been engaged for 1. My DD15 and SO get along just fine. SO and BM have 50:50 custody of SD13.
I disengaged a few weeks and after a rocky start it was smoothing out ok. Then in a passive moment tonight when I had plans to go to store DH said SD16 needed to go too to get a sketchpad for school and I felt like I was put on the spot and she would have heard me say no and it would cause a big fight. So I took SD with me and DS8. (DS is homeschooled and we don't get out often.)
My current job has a pretty high turn over rate and I'm working it due to the flexibility I get by being an on-call staff. I get to work when I'm available and there are other on call staff as well. At one of our locations there were three staff who left almost at the same time. This location has been notorious for being understaffed, poorly managed, and trying to get people to do an impossible amount of stressful work. Way more that should be expected of one person.