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Well it's been about 2 weeks since the weekend from hell, well actually it was like a month long drama fest with SD and BM since Christmas. DH has not talked to SD15 since he sent her his last text saying he would not continue to go back and forth with her and hear her just blame him or me for basically everything . SD kept texting after that and she even accused me pretending to be DH and texting her because of course DH would never say such thing ! She really needs help, DH finally Had enough of years and years of horrible behavior.
More like runs for their life from one of Chef's ferals. This time it is Pumpkinhead OSD28 and his wife. Indoor cat made a run for it. Skids were always mean to animals and neglectful. The Girhippo would give animals back to the shelter for jumping up on people at the drop of a hat. Pet ownership was never taken seriously.
SD26 had MANY cats that ran away from her. Frankly some people should NEVER have animals. Chef's ferals should all be banned from having them.
Havent been as active on here during the last week. Reason being is that about a week ago, I received very sad news that the law firm I have enjoyed working with for 10 years is ceasing operations along with the senior partner retiring. His retirement is very much deserved, so question about that. But business has gotten lackluster and was more of a decision based on that too. I guess the WHY doesnt matter since the situation remains the same. I am still needing to have to line up another job soon, having to start over and lots of changes are coming fast in this realm of my life.
It is always fascinating to me the NEED BMs still think that they are relevant in people’s lives when it comes to social media.
SOs friend’s sons birthday is today. His wife posted a happy birthday post wishing her kid a happy birthday. Said son and SD are 3 months apart. At one point back in time BM and SOs friends wife were friends… makes sense… considering they also lived next door.. still do…
How (most people) portray things on Social Media are not always what they seem! This is especially the case for BM.
The edge of poverty and homelessness that is.
LI just texted DH crying about how her online bank is having technical difficulties with deposits. I can tell from her wording that she is very frustrated and upset about not having access to her money today. DH and I also use said bank (and a couple others) but we are fine.
Not much DH can tell her except that it will be back up when it's back up and she will just have to be patient. I'm sure she owes money to somebody today (she does most every day). This isn't the first time she's flipped out when her paycheck is delayed.
I have been a member of step talk for the last few years. Overall, I have found it to be very helpful and a safe place to vent my frustrations with my wife and SKIDS. As we all know step parenting is diffiuclt and we should be supporting each other. Unfortunately, this was not the case on my last post. I simply asked if an interaction was ungrateful after informing the SKIDS of a vacation. Most comments were fine but some chose to be insulting. Saying I was looking for something to be upset about and looking through my previous posts and asking why I am going on a family vacation when
DH and I have been in a rough place for a while. It's a roller-coaster really, when it's good it's good, but we can't seem to figure out how to fix the bad. Handling conflict has always been an issue, and it peaked in Oct. (not physical, but things were said that are unacceptable). I was at the point of asking for a divorce. DH pledged change on his part and explained how. We agreed to marriage counseling and have been going, although the sessions are short and EOW, so it's hard to see results fast, although she is giving us tools to work with and I can see potential.
Need your advice and perspective about this. Am I thinking about this correctly?
Background:
The skids are PASed out—OSD since she was 14, and now at 20, remains completely estranged from her father. YSD, only recently PASed out a few months ago at 17, has also severed contact with DH. Neither daughter communicates with their father, despite the years he spent time, love, and all the care he has given them.
Yesterday when DH and SS return after school pickup, I notice SS asking DH to unlock his tablet over and over without a breath in between while DH is on the phone with a customer (DH has a flexible job and can work from home as needed). I ignore the situation due to my nacho mentality and leave DH to handle it. Eventually DH snips at him and tells him that he's on the phone, has to find something else to do for now and not to interrupt him while he's on the phone. SS proceeds to watch TV for a while but comes to see if I would unlock his tablet. I ask, do you have homework? He said um....
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