I’m new so I hope this isn’t too much to start with…I just think putting it all in writing might help me. I could also really use some feedback from someone that understands SKIDS dynamics. Here is as basic of history of my life with my SKIDS. I started dating my DH over 11 years ago. At the time we started dating his two daughters were 7 and 2 years old and I had a 4-year-old daughter (yes 3 girls lol). My ex and I have a very good relationship and co-parent easily. My daughter has a great relationship with both her dad and me.
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After the laundry incident yesterday with SD17, she posts one of those 'describe me in one word' things on Facebook. Her mom, who has little to do with her, posts "one word is not enough...blah blah blah" I wanted to chime in to agree...no one word is not enough unless #### biscuit is one word, which i just text my DH, he says it is two. It would be so funny to post something like that but not til Im able to move out. Laundry incident is below if interested
I was a stepmom. I was married for 2 years.
Finances were separate. He wanted it that way.
He paid for "extras" for his kids and child support. Which is fine. It's his money, but was hard seeing his daughter with Starbucks, designer clothes, hair and nails done all the time. I don't make a lot of money. I hardly made my half of rent. So I went without a coat one year. Again, it's my fault. I have a bad job and he makes 4 times more than me.
DH is supposed to have weekly facetime calls with SS. They were first suggested at 8:30pm one day a week, he suggested a day. Suggestion from the GAL - never an order. At first that was fine, 9:30 pm our time was later than we liked because we are up at 5:30am but not out of the question. Now DH is up at 4 am. Staying up until 10pm to be able to have a talk and then do his journal about it is ridiculous. He has a very high risk job in the navy. Peoples lives depend on him being able to think clearly. 9/10 times SS doesn't answer anyway so he is staying up for NOTHING.
It's been exactly one week since I last spoke with my mother and she blatantly showed her favoritism (Ser last blog). The last thing she said to me was, "I'll call you back," even though I said she didn't have to. Well, that turned out to be a lie, because not only did she never call me back, but she has not spoken to me at all. Wth.
I fell in love with my husband four years ago, and I had no idea that I would be living with his son, now 30, for so long. Then his 31-year-old stepdaughter moved in for three years.
I get really freaked out sometimes, coming home from work with a bunch of dishes to wash and dinner to make, every day.
I highly recommend Bonus Family on Netflix. It is a Swedish series about step life. I love it. Only problem is it has subtitles so if you look away for a moment you miss everything. I have to pause it to answer a text message.
Great show & great characters.
I've generally gotten along with and bonded pretty closely with SS5. I've known him since he was 2 and he's almost 6.There's always been moments of when I felt annoyed but I would say something and he would cut it out. And it never affected our relationshp. But recently.... I've been so irritable and short he's beginning to distance himself from me. It kind of stings... but then it also fuels my annoyance.
Ok, so I've disengaged completely with BM since joining ST and opening my eyes to the wonderful world of cutting BM out of my life. I completely stopped engaging in her shenanigans with SS amd put a halt to attending events that my involvement wasn't necessary. However, things have only seemed to have worsened and now she's seemingly reaching for me and DH any way she possibly can.
Why do these bitches continue to try to manipulate and control their ex's lives? We have this issue all the damn time, and then because I no longer allow her to have a say in "what goes or doesn't" in MY home, she starts bullshitting at my DH saying "why are you letting others fill your mind with crap" (me) LOL, bitch, it's crap that I don't allow my husband to continue kissing your ass? OK.