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Weekly Update

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Camping weekend was fantastic. Got all of my gear out and I know I packed way too much. The weather was SO cool in the mountains. I had packed a battery operated fan - never needed it.

This group of women I camped with is part of a nation-wide hiking organization for women who are curvy and not into hiking far or fast. Not quite slugs or sloths, but women who take their time and no one is left behind.

My Date with a MUCH Younger Man

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Met up with the local college football coach for dinner and drinks, last night. As I said in my last post, he is one month older than my DS33. I am 23 years his senior.

I tried to dismiss the notion that he was interested in more than a friendship, but he confirmed last night.......he was interested in more. Oh dear Lord.

When it rains, it pours....

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I've got Mr. Allergic to cats, but perfect for me on paper, asking me to concerts - as a friend.

I've got Mr. Cutie-pie, separated, 9 years younger with 2 minor kids going to dinner with me next week - as a friend.

And to top it all off, tomorrow night I have a "date" with a local college football coach I met a few weeks ago after a bike ride. And I am SURE he's 20 years younger than me. Dafuq?

Made it to 4 months

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Today is 4 months since I broke things off. Things are exponentially better.

This weekend, I'm with 4 of my dear friends. We're staying DEEP in N. Central PA and riding the Pine Creek Trail. We rode about 24-25 miles today and 3 of us will ride the remaining 38 miles tomorrow.

I've been here before, but only from the state park that overlooks PA's Grand Canyon. Being down in the canyon on the trail with a view of the river has been nothing less than spectacular.

The Next Installment

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As requested, here is the summary of the weekend with the nice man I met a week ago.

It's been a gift to meet this nice man. He has been CONSISTENTLY communicative, polite, apologetic, considerate, welcoming, gentlemanly, inclusive and kind. He's shown an example of word and action matching. Through conversation he's been transparent and forthcoming, as well as vulnerable. I cannot tell you how much knowing both this man and the other, younger guy has been nice. It's helped me see how some people are just wired to connect, and others just aren't wired for something deeper.

It's nice to feel like there is hope

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I know a lot of people in my age bracket who are dating and their stories are disheartening. I'm not on dating apps. I'm just living my life and doing what I love, believing that if my person is out there, we will find each other eventually.

I led a hike on the Appalachian Trail this past Saturday. I met a lot of nice people, but really enjoyed talking to one guy. We had a lot in common and he mentioned that he's part of a theater group (does lighting) that is doing a play based on a book I love. I looked it up when I got home and this is the last week it's running.

Heard from the XBF

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But, it's not what you think.

Got an informed delivery email from the USPS that a letter was arriving on Thursday from the XBF. Naturally, my imagination ran away from me and I theorized what it could be about. Was it a heartfelt letter? Was it a letter chewing me out?

None of the above. It was a very important piece of mail for my son who is on SSI. It was time sensitive as it related to a phone call I'm schedule to receive next week to verify his status for SSI.

The envelope included a brief note saying it looked important and hoping I was well.

3 months later

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There is something magical about the 3 month mark after a breakup. The worst of the grieving is over and the mind starts to settle into acceptance.

I'm starting to be less frenetic with the need for constact activity. I'm enjoying peace and sitting still in my HOME. The garden is taking shape and I've started some seeds for the veggie garden. I hope to harvest some peas and beans this year. I could never get them going at the X's house because of the hungry wildlife getting into everything.