Life is good, at least for now. But that's just until the inevitable next wave of drama hits.

 A decade ago, I wasn't aware that my partner and I had vastly different ideas about how to raise children. Although I don't have kids, I strongly believe in the importance of assigning them chores if I do.

Why?

Because chores are more than just tasks, they're a vital learning tool for time management. Children learn to navigate their day, balancing several functions within a limited time frame.

So basically I just had a conversation with SO about how his kids (8,10 and 11 all boys) feel about me (we've been together 3 years) , he asked them how they find me and they basically just said "she is ok". He asked more questions so they could open up and they said I cook for them and I sometimes ask them few questions about their day and that's it.

I've been married for 8 years, known my husband and SS for 11 years, we have 3 bio kids, and I don't think I can do this step mom thing anymore. The first 9 years were fine. Visitation during summers and every other major holiday. But since fall of 2020 we've (I've) had him full time. My husband is in the army and leaves a lot, he doesn't do much when he's here anyways (I swear he has a gaming addiction) and I'm a stay at home mom. My stepson from the beginning has been very sneaky, manipulative and lies frequently.

Long time lurker on the site, finally created a membership because this is too much.  

I've been married to DH for just about 10 years now, been in 3 SK'S lives since 2011. HCBM was a tyrant in the beginning, telling anyone who would listen that **I** broke up her family and that DH had been cheating with me (not true, not true, not true).