Has anyone else had suspicions that their pre teen son   Has more than adhd?  

He has been diagnosed with adhd but he displays so many more characteristics outside of adhd. 

Like extreme fear, constant lying, paranoia, no friends! , can not keep friends, extremely awkward. 

Any thoughts?

My partners son is 13 and has a pretty severe case of ADHD. I thought I could handle it and after living together it really opened my eyes to the severity and I became very overwhelmed and depressed and as a result it put a strain on me and my partners relationship. I have a five year old boy who is very active and social and I became very aware and worried of the negative influence his son was having on mine. We obviously raised our children very differently as most parents do but the result of that was rubbing off on my son. 

It finally happened.  Anyone who has read my previous entries knows that things have not been good at home for a long time.  SS17 has clearly been very unhappy for years, and cannot get along with others in this house.  After the episode last week, where SS17 became physically aggressive toward DD14, I had more than enough.  I've had enough of this stuff for a very long time, and tolerated way more than I should have.  Luckily no one was injured last week, but I knew serious changes had to be made.  

Rant here about SS17,

Yesterday there was less than a 2hr gap between when his mother SO left for work, and I arrived home from work.  That was too long for SS17 and DD14.  SS17 decided he wanted coffee from our Keurig.  We don't allow kids to drink coffee, especially a kid with hyperactivity issues (SS17 for clarity).  We have resorted to tracking the count of our kcups with a sharpie on the kcup boxes so we know when some "go missing".  

So we had another round of SS17 acting up at the supper table.  He began arguing with DD14 after she made a (bad) joke.  After she said she was kidding, it didn't matter.  SS17 proceeded to be rude to his mother again, and right in front of me, so I had enough.  I actually forgot the exact words I used but it made him mad enough to leave the table and say "I'm sick of putting up with people's crap!"  I responded with "I'm tired of your crap."  I then finished supper and took a walk in the rain with DD14.