Seeking advice. I’ve been with my DH for 4 years. I have 4 kids (11, 9, 8 & 5), he has 1 son (10). BM spoils him to the extreme to make sure she is the “favorite.” Buys him whatever he wants, takes expensive trips (DH and I cannot afford this and she knows that), picks up after him, indulges him.. (which he has told me and DH that we need to do for him as well. And he was quickly corrected that no, we do not). BM even sleeps in his bed with him at night (which honestly is a little weird to me).
I had a talk yesterday with DH about why it is so frustrating to hear him attempt to sell the idea of us to his oldest from his first marriage. Sometimes I feel like he has the voice of an info commercial announcer as he remarks about DS and I. It is like DS and I are the fruit of a very inconveniently planted tree in SS18’s life. And DH is trying to get SS18 to see how beautiful the leaves are. Painful to watch.
So to try and make a long story short, since I last blogged FH is now DH as of may, been together 3 yrs, he has sole custody of SS10 (vague custody wording "father had sole custody with mother having visitation at fathers discretion" long story behind that) BM has moved 14 times in 3 yrs, in aug with 24 hr notice took her other 2 kids and husband and move 3 states away for a month till they had cars repossessed. She's only had a job for 6 months ever (ended last june) her DH works cash under the table. She doesn't financially help with SS and no CO for CS or insurance.
So i have a SS who is gonna be 17 soon and him and his dad my husband acts the same ands says the same things! Either my husband is trying to act like him or SS is trying to act like his dad. Anyways, our sex life has pretty much deminished... we have only been married for a little over a year and there are some annoying things that i just try to ignore, but turned into anger and resentment.
So we had another round of SS17 acting up at the supper table. He began arguing with DD14 after she made a (bad) joke. After she said she was kidding, it didn't matter. SS17 proceeded to be rude to his mother again, and right in front of me, so I had enough. I actually forgot the exact words I used but it made him mad enough to leave the table and say "I'm sick of putting up with people's crap!" I responded with "I'm tired of your crap." I then finished supper and took a walk in the rain with DD14.