This is a warning to all out there with blended families. I truly pray this applies to none of you. But now unfortunately it applies to me. If there's a kid in your home, and he or she exhibits troubling behavior (ex:severe outbursts, signs of manipulative/narcissitic behavior, sometimes diagnosed as ADHD/bipoloar/ODD/etc) please get that person professional help. Consider the fact that if there's a troubled kid in your home, and he/she behaves badly toward the adults, just imagine how he/she could act toward another child in the home who especially when unsupervised. That's a long int
It finally happened. Anyone who has read my previous entries knows that things have not been good at home for a long time. SS17 has clearly been very unhappy for years, and cannot get along with others in this house. After the episode last week, where SS17 became physically aggressive toward DD14, I had more than enough. I've had enough of this stuff for a very long time, and tolerated way more than I should have. Luckily no one was injured last week, but I knew serious changes had to be made.
Rant here about SS17,
Yesterday there was less than a 2hr gap between when his mother SO left for work, and I arrived home from work. That was too long for SS17 and DD14. SS17 decided he wanted coffee from our Keurig. We don't allow kids to drink coffee, especially a kid with hyperactivity issues (SS17 for clarity). We have resorted to tracking the count of our kcups with a sharpie on the kcup boxes so we know when some "go missing".
So we had another round of SS17 acting up at the supper table. He began arguing with DD14 after she made a (bad) joke. After she said she was kidding, it didn't matter. SS17 proceeded to be rude to his mother again, and right in front of me, so I had enough. I actually forgot the exact words I used but it made him mad enough to leave the table and say "I'm sick of putting up with people's crap!" I responded with "I'm tired of your crap." I then finished supper and took a walk in the rain with DD14.
My last post was more optimistic than this one will be. 2 nights ago there was another skirmish between SS17 and his Mom, or a few of them I should say. At dinner with family, there were 10 of us including 2 SO's granddaughters who were in high chairs directly across from SS17. He was slouched in his chair and feet across the other side. SO asked her son to move his feet so she could push the highchairs in. He responded "I'm not making myself uncomfortable just for them!" Nice and classy for a 17yr old uncle.
So it's been a while since my last, and i really haven't had anything to vent about lately. To catch up- had a family vacay planned for me, SO, DD14, and SS17. Cancelled reservations due to SS17s aggressive behavior. Found out that even with trip protection, the flights were non-refundable. So her and I went on the vacation without kids, who stayed with my parents. It seems to be the best thing that could've happened. It was a great vacation. We had a great time (not fighting about her son), and the kids had a break with grandparents as well. After coming back, I thought, back to th
For several days within the last week, SS17 has been very argumentative and hostile toward his mother. I verbally intervened 3 days in a row (typically at the supper table). 2 days ago I was at work, and they got into it again. Apparently he "snapped" and was yelling, slamming things as he likes to do when he gets upset. She took his house key. I became aware of the latest incident while at work via text. He left, and later she went to work (she works nights).
Sometimes disengagement doesn't work. At the table today, before SO goes to work. As often is the case, SS17 has an issue with something his mother said to him, or the way she said it. This disagreement started over a comment about how we're not buying a new dining room table or other new furniture because kids destroy things (DD14, SS17 in this house). SO tells SS17 he owes her for the storm door that no longer shuts right (he has slammed it more times than I can count). He defaults to "You're rude, you're always so rude to me everyday...!" blah blah I'm used to this. He makes the p
So I get home from work today and SO is on her way out the door to work a bit early (not a long commute so I figured something was up). SS17 found a way to fight with Mom again, naturally when I'm not there to play security guard. I was told he yelled at her and told her she "needed to start showing him some respect!" Not saying it surprised me, but it's the kind of escalation on his part that can lead to a very nasty exchange between mother and son. He craves this every so often, but does NOT crave it with me (a man). Go figure...
So here's the next one. Preparing dinner yesterday evening, and my girlfriend had to run to the store quick. She told her son (SS17) to be home at 530 for dinner. When she came back he had left a note, "Hey Mom, I'm eating at Jack's". She was less than happy. He doesn't have a phone so she mesaged his friend to ask him to come home. I read the message, it was very polite. When he came home, he stormed in the house, "What!?...