My SD9 has a snapchat (for family only) and I posted something just now to see her be the first one to look at it. Its 1130pm. I just can't with BM. She treats SD like her best friend, she really does. She doesn't treat her or talk to her the way a mother is supposed to.
Today is Father's Day. It's supposed to be our week with SD anyway so we pick her up today (not court ordered, we just have a personal summer schedule). BM texts SO yesterday saying SD wanted to stay with BM for the week instead of us. I'm not urprised, she hates being over here for more than 2 days now because all she really wants is BM and we don't treat her as the absolute queen of our entire lives.
I figured SO would just get her and go out to lunch or something and drop her back but no...
This has been an ongoing thing with SS13. He does not want to read anything and keeps coming up with excuses and manipulations ao that he doesn't have to study/ read. He did getdiagnosed with a reading disability and had an Iep in grade 5( he will be in grade 9 this fall). Do not know the status of that iep or anything.( I doubt BM got off her ass to go get it reevaluated since 5th grade).
BM has had SD9 almost 100% of the time ever since I made it clear to both my SO and BM that I'm not a free babysitter. It really confirmed what I had thought all along that all of BMs "I can't" days... weeks....were really just "I'm too lazy and I only want to be a mom when its convenient".
EOW visits with SD13 have been going really well. There is no Disney Dad happening. No nightly phone calls to BM. SD13 seems pretty happy when she is here. She spends time with us by her own choice and we all get along well. When it is time to go back to BM’s (who she chose to stay with FT) she drags her feet.
I am still sticking to my two rules. I am not left alone with SD13 because of her lying. And I keep conversation focused on her, so my invisible emotional boundary is intact.
I looked at BM’s fb and got a stomach ache over all of the lies. She paints this rosy picture of her life and who she is. All of it is absolute bullcrap.
DH was disappointed in me for “diving into the muck” and giving her power over my mind. He chooses to ignore her. He is wise.
It is as though she is the CEO of divorced moms everywhere. Every sentence has too many damn adverbs. They ooze drama that is “professional sounding” in the way those scam emails that pretend to alert you to an unauthorized user logging into your Apple iTunes account are. You know what I mean, Steppers? Please comment with examples so I can laugh. Ten more years. Ten more years of this psychopath. I saw her the other day. Geez does she look like dried dog poop flakes so gracefully ironic in the wind.
DH gets weekly Emails with these phrases:
Just a friendly reminder..
This morning I’ve been reading about Narcissistic Personality Disorder from a narcissist’s point of view on Quora. Interesting stuff.
I’m pretty sure BM has NPD based on her actions, opinions of people who have known her for decades, and oh yeah, that little golden psyche report which came back “inconclusive” during the divorce.
Long time lurker, first time poster. Needed to vent.
I am SM to three kids, 15, 13, and 11. DH and I have been together for 9 years, married for 3. He empowers me to be a parent to his kids and backs me up. The kids are awesome and we treat each other with respect.
Needed to vent about BM. BM and SF live in the country, in a house that's set 150 yards back from the road, a road which does not have a posted speed limit (which means people go as fast as they want). They have lived there for a year and eight months.