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Discipline and bored at school

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So, first off SD got in trouble with her teacher for disrupting "class" because she'd chat back her classmates or send the school counselor messages during the lesson. 

SD lives with us. This is on record with the school. SD even told the teacher she was with her dad. 

What does teacher do? Never called DH. Called BM. Which is just utter BS and to me just serves to try to nullify the role of dads. 

Anyway, DH had a talk with SD anyway about not being disruptive etc. 

Depressed, vent, update. Whatever

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Wow. It's been a long time since I've been here. 

My last post was about the modification hearing. It was heard in September and the judge has STILL not made a decision. Like what the eff is that about??

Anyway, "quarantine" or whatever has been, for the most part, miserable. Oh and BM tried to say she could keep SD basically indefinitely because the schools shut down right before Spring Break and this year Spring Break was BM's time. We shut that down real quick. 


Update and question on modification

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I cant remember when I was last here. I've been gone as there hasnt been anything to vent and I had a medical procedure I was recovering from. Nothing serious. 

When summer ended, some of the stress alleviated plus i have disengaged more which has helped me feel happier in my own home and enjoy spending time with SD without worrying about her behavior etc. 

Also DH FINALLY had the final hearing for the modification he filed and BMs counter petition. Now it's just waiting for the judge's decision. 

Manipulative BM

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So SD hardly ever cries for BM. And she spent a good chunk of summer with BM. 

Today she came back after being gone 2 weeks. And she was WAILING for BM, that she wasnt going to see her for a "long time" (10 days). Mind you she will actually see BM twice this week for some other things with school and extracurriculars. 

Now I know kids will often miss their other parent. But this type of reaction only ever happens RIGHT before there is a court hearing schedule. So it's hard not to believe that BM is manipulating and amplifying her feelings. 

Not sure why BM did this creepy thing

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So, as I've mentioned DH and BM are in ongoing court thing for a modification. Because the court system sucks it's been almost 2 years. 

Anyway, BM supplemented some material for discovery and BM and DH are expected to do. 

And one of things she submitted were two creepy a$$ photos she took of DH and I arriving with SD on her first day of school. Like WHY? 

I mean SD's half sister is in the photo but BM took numerous photos of SD and her half sister that day up-close. 

Disney Dadee and no respect

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The more time passes the more I realize how much of a Disney Dad DH is. 

So Tuesday night we tell SD she can have one of the mini cheesecakes we made. And that afterwards she needed to go shower. SD sat at the table just kind of waving her spoon at the cheesecake and not really eating it. 

So I asked her nicely, "are you not going to eat it?" She shook her head and said no. Then SD proceeded to get up and start crying for no reason. Still trying to be patient as can be, I'm like "why are you crying?"

I find it funny

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I find it funny how much BM lies about her expenses and income. 

So as I've mentioned in previous posts, DH and BM are in an ongoing modification battle. DH is seeking court to give exclusive legal right of one particular kind of decision. BM countersued asking either the court now make her CP or grant 50/50. 

Anyway, BM claims her household expenses are $6800. This includes supposedly spending $1000 in groceries a month. Which is laughable because in our area there's NO WAY anyone would spend that amount for the size of her household. 

When did kids stop learning to entertain themselves?

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We went to a lake this afternoon and went fishing. But it's a really hot day so we came home and we were relaxing. 

Then SD comes in and about every other minute "what can I do?" "I wish I could do something". 

Go play with your toys? Draw? Read? 

All suggestions I made that she didn't respond to or do!

Of course now she's taken over the TV AGAIN to watch a really stupid show. 

On the brightside? She leaves to BM's tomorrow for 2 weeks!! 

Just the usual

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I made plain rice and plain chicken for SD who is a picky eater. She per usual sat in the living room watching a movie and of course didn't eat.

DH and I are of course done eating. I came to the bedroom to relax. And DH followed me. 

SD is still taking her sweet ass time to eat. And now DH is negotiating with her on how much to eat. Like what?! 

And then he's invited her to come snuggle with us in my fucking bed. 

No, I don't want to snuggle. I want to relax. 

I'll probably get up and watch my damn show. 

Speaking of people who fail to disengage...

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There's a local news story of a BM's BOYFRIEND choking her teenage son over a missed curfew and locked phone. So boyfriend gets arrested, BM lies to police that there was no choking, then police find text messages BM sent to a family member in fact confirming boyfriend choked the son. 

Did I mention I know this BM? and if social media is anything to go by, she is still dating him. Jesus.