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Cbarton12's picture

I find it funny how much BM lies about her expenses and income. 

So as I've mentioned in previous posts, DH and BM are in an ongoing modification battle. DH is seeking court to give exclusive legal right of one particular kind of decision. BM countersued asking either the court now make her CP or grant 50/50. 

Anyway, BM claims her household expenses are $6800. This includes supposedly spending $1000 in groceries a month. Which is laughable because in our area there's NO WAY anyone would spend that amount for the size of her household. 

Oh and the kicker? In 2018 her household only earned 76k? You do the math. 

But of course despite all this BM and her current husband both got LASIK. BM's husband got a $50,000 vehicle. And they are going to Disneyworld with 3 kids to include SD, SD's half sister, and stepbrother. 

And SD mentioned that they're going to get their hair and makeup done like princesses. Which folks let me tell you, that runs $64-165 a kid. 

I just don't get why people lie and think they won't be found out. 


tog redux's picture

BM here claimed she spends 1K on groceries for just her and SS19.  Sheesh, someone needs to learn frugal shopping.

tog redux's picture

I don't know. We live in a low COL area and DH and I only spend around $400 per month, so whatever the hell they are buying, we sure aren't.

thinkthrice's picture

spend like Chef does at the grocery store.  He goes to the fanciest,  most expensive store and buys pre prepared and high end gourmet stuff for "convenience."

  Ribeye steaks, little neck clams and beer.  Doesn't care about sales,  price comparison, stocking up or coupons.  Danny Wegman thanks him!

He does the grocery shopping and cooking most of the time now because my job is way too demanding.

When I retire, I will be doing all the shopping at Aldis and the cooking!! We will save a fortune. 

Petronella's picture

SK’s shop like that. I’ve made the mistake of asking them to pick something up for me at the store and I’d reimburse them. They chose the fanciest grocery store where nothing is ever on sale. Of course they are still young and have never lived on their own.

thinkthrice's picture

am I!

Petronella's picture

DH received a text “I took SD shopping for toiletries, I spent about $100. Can I ask you to pay half.”

Toiletries has been a dirty word in our house ever since.

sunshinex's picture

LOL how old is your SD? 

I spend about $10 on toiletries for my 7 year old stepdaughter and that's like once a month. Go to the dollar store and grab a bar of soap, bottle of shampoo, a new hairbrush every now and then. As an ADULT WOMAN my shampoo/conditioner/body wash only costs around $60 every 3 months. 

Petronella's picture

SD was 16 at the time and had just flounced from our house to move back with BM. She had a room full of toiletries here but was refusing to come collect her things. There was also a bathroom full of toiletries at BM’s house. She was neither working nor going to school at the time. Yet somehow they needed $100 worth of new crap just for SD16 and it just couldn’t wait!!

SayNoSkidsChitChat's picture

I haw very temperamental hair so I need fancier stuff for it. However, I’m stingey and frugal as hell with it!

Petronella's picture

Same, I have certain hair products and other toiletries that I really like to have. However I pay for that stuff with my own money. That I earn. By working. And if I’d left my stuff at someone’s house, I’d arrange a time to come retrieve it. Not expect Mommee to take me for a shopping trip and Daddee to pay for it. 

hereiam's picture

“I took SD shopping for toiletries, I spent about $100. Can I ask you to pay half.”

No, you cannot.

shellpell's picture

Well it’s not a question since she forgot the question mark, haha. It’s just a statement.

LuluOnce's picture

Wow! I think our BMs may be related. But ours still out-spends yours. In her most recent filing, she claims she spends $1200 on groceries. SHE LIVES ALONE! DH has full custody of the skids!! How can ONE person spend $1200 on groceries?!?! I've determined it's all the booze she buys. Logic being: it comes from "the grocery store" so it counts as "groceries".

But seriously, I get it. We have been fairly fortunate as far as courts go with seeing BM's lies about money. I mean, no where near as lucky as she'd be if the situation were reversed and it was DH who wasn't paying CS or alimony. But still. Our last court date ended up with BM having to pay half of the court-ordered therapy (for her and the skids) which was as close to a win as I think you can get with these BMs.

Good luck to you when it's your turn!!