Tell him NO. No skids in your bed. Take a stand. 

over food issues and the skids while we were dating. Same thing, too. Had to be plain, they took forever, and he negotiated. Oh, and half an hour later when they asked for ice cream they got it. 

He talked a good game and I thought it was BM and he just needed my support to turn around the eating habits. Nope. Five long years until I snapped and told them to cut it the F out, that they were done. You know what? They stopped. All it took was someone to call them out. 

Snuggle in bed with you?? No way. I don’t mind skids ON the bed - sometimes - but IN my bed? No effing way. Never. They can snuggle somewhere else.

I can’t stand the food issues. DH used to give them whatever they wanted but I’ve put a stop to it. No you’re not having sweets & crisps before dinner or instead of lunch, and I don’t care if you ‘don’t like’ what I’ve made. You liked it a few days ago & this isn’t a restaurant. 

hate parenting.  Your DuH is one of them.  I had the same fights with Chef.

whatever happened to "you'll eat what is put in front if you...if you don't then you can go hungry!"

If he snuggles with her in bed then you can watch your show.  Tell him how UN sexy snuggling in your bed is and offer the love birds the sofa.

Mmmm. Rice and chicken. One of uber picky eater skid’s favorite meals. 

Other favorites:

- spaghetti (sans marinara sauce) + French bread (sans garlic, any trace of herbs, or brown toasted marks).

- P.F. Chang’s Orange chicken (sans the orange sauce).

- fast food fries + couple bites of cheeseburger or chicken nuggets.

- the most expensive thing at a restaurant (usually steak + lobster) uneaten.

I hate going out to eat with picky eater skid (12) with a burning passion. 

Did she end up snuggling in your bed last night!?

My YSS was such a picker eater.  He wouldn’t eat hamburgers or hotdogs but he sure would scarf down the most expensive ribeye steak on a menu.  I have one BS and three SS’s.  Early in when we were all together and going out to eat, he would ask them where they wanted to go!!! Now it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to figure out you will never get 4 boys to agree on anything let alone a restaurant.  So what would happen is, DH would take forever trying to convince them all to agree.  One would end up mad and refusing to eat and one would cry.  My BS would be in total shock about the whole shit show and only one kid would be happy!

i finally lost it on him while we were still dating.  I can’t believe I actually had to point out the chaos he was creating by asking that one stupid question.   I made it clear he was tha adult and to stop asking their opinion.    He finally got it but only after I nearly lost my mind! 

And hell no to the kid snuggling in my bed.  Tell

him to snuggle her in her own bed, which is just as creepy.

The first time he went out with me and my DS was to a fancy restaurant. I could see DH (then my BF) was really wondering how this would go with a 9yo.

To his shock and amazement (and because his kids are such picky eaters the shock and awe was greater) my 9yo son ate raw oysters on the half shell. Had never had them before but wanted to try, didn't cry, no gagging, no negotiating, and also ate a full adult meal.

Disengage from the picky eating!  I went through it with OSD (she's almost 16 and still eats like a toddler) and somewhat still with YSD. 

* do not make special meals for picky eater.  If you must, do separate pieces of the meal, like serve spaghetti/meatballs in three bowls:  spaghetti/meatballs/sauce so picky people don't ruin YOUR choices. EDIT: If it's too bad, then stop cooking altogether - your DH can do it. I do this every so often, esp. if I find myself cooking too many meals in a row.

* if DH chooses to feed picky eater at other times, ignore.  DH would buy gallons of ice cream for OSD because "she's got to eat something."

* if it's really bad, avoid going to restaurants with them.  I never, ever want to do this.  Neither SD, to this day, can order off a menu by themselves (well, YSD is getting better slowly, but STILL!).

* do not shop for special food for them, that's 100% on DH.

And your DH doesn't get to invite her into your bed w/out your permission too!  I mean, jeez! No!

More than not, I pass when DH asks me if I want to go out to dinner with skid and his parents. He used to throw tantrums that I didn’t want to engage with all of them, but told him I was perfectly fine with him taking our two young children and enjoying his time with skid and his parents. He was so hell bent on thinking it was some sort of backhanded behavior on my part, but I promise I simply just had zero desire to go. I still don’t.

My in-laws rarely cook and eat out 90% of the time. No exaggeration. So, we are asked quite a bit to go out and eat with them and skid over the summer. Out of the 8 weeks she’s here, I will go once, maybe twice. 

Wow, that kid is ruling the roost wtf?! DH needs to grow some balls!