DH and I have been in a rough place for a while. It's a roller-coaster really, when it's good it's good, but we can't seem to figure out how to fix the bad. Handling conflict has always been an issue, and it peaked in Oct. (not physical, but things were said that are unacceptable). I was at the point of asking for a divorce. DH pledged change on his part and explained how. We agreed to marriage counseling and have been going, although the sessions are short and EOW, so it's hard to see results fast, although she is giving us tools to work with and I can see potential.

We had a bday party for a friend at our house yesterday- it was fun, of course drinks were had. DH went to bed before me since he had to work early today. My phone rang at 10pm- it was Demon15. I did not answer. Apparently she called DH also, asking if he could pick her up because Crazy and her BF were smoking in the basement (like usual, but for some reason it was bothering her more this time) and she wanted to come to our house....but DH was almost asleep and had been drinking so he told her she was coming here tomorrow anyway, so he couldn't pick her up.  

Tonight Demon15 had a virtual counseling appt. She was in her room and I walked past and could clearly hear her talking to her counselor saying "I have like 4 friends, I just don't like them very much and I just use them all for different things. One gives me rides and takes me shopping, another tells me things. I just use them, I'm a user! I don't really like people". What in the actual F is wrong with this girl?? Then in the next breath she told the counselor "we match, you have red on and I have green on.

I swear to God I am going to get a divorce before we become empty nesters, with the finish line just 2-1/2 yrs away, and 9yrs of step-hell will have been for nothing. 

SS18 has been at college since August. I posted about how we think he's probably going to be coming back for his HS gf, hopefully just transfering to another college, but who knows at this point. Either way, NOT living with us long-term, just for the summer at most- hopefully staying with Crazy. But I digress.