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I have one of those faces

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that you can tell what I'm thinking complete with the eye roll that I have no control over.

Last night DH and I were discussing SS20 Christmas gifts as he only asked for one thing and we are giving him a check.  He then asks since we are going to onto the website to order what do we order SS16?

I tried, I really did and thought I got away with it by just saying - I don't know just nothing matching.  He says, "whatever, Ill just stop saying his name.  I wish I had a picture of your face every time I do".

How do you deal

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with still being so angry at step-kid to the point you don't want to look at them or talk to them?

We have a family dinner tonight (public place) and there will be 8 of us.  SS16 will be there and I just don't want to even engage!  Is that horrible of me??  

We never got and apology and never will, but I am not DH and SS16 is not my kid so I don't feel I have to even acknowledge him.

So mature, I know!


Maybe I'm just closed minded but..

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DH visited with SS20 this weekend.  They discussed SS16 and why all of a sudden within 12 hours he went from not wanting to even see any of his other family to getting in trouble and now wanting to go live with DBDB again.

Well it seems they have both come up with the fact that SS16 is bipolar.  I call BS!!!  I have seen this kid in action both infront of adults and when he isn't with adults.  He is an actor at best.  He has told Dfys, us and therapists alike that he will tell them what they want to hear just to end the questionning.

Update to SS16 - DFS

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When I pulled in the driveway last night, DH was standing outside with a strange woman.  Family Services at our door!

Seems when the guidance counselor and the athletic department director pulled SS16 in to talk to him about his failing grade and his standing on the baseball team he broke down in hysterics.  Why? He told them it was because his phone service was suspended!

Well I guess they did not buy that and called DFS.  She talked to all three of us.  When she talked to SS16.  Here is that conversation:

DFS:  SS16 do you feel safe here?

SS16: yes

SS16 back at it!

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SS16 is exempt from most PE because he is still in PT from surgery.  He was to be participating when he could and completing packets the teacher gave him.

When DH was checking his grades he noticed SS16 had a 51.  Wow from the starting pitcher of the baseball team this is pretty sad.  SS16 told him it was because the PE teacher did not have time to grade the packets yet.  ohhh ok.  DH bought it hook line and sinker.  I say nothing, I'm out of this one kids.

Why doesn't she care?

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Is what SS15 asked me after he woke up from surgery.  And AGAIN I start crying with anger and frustration.

He said he felt obligated to tell DBDB that he was having elbow surgery and had called her two day prior.  She didn't ask him anything but "how long have you known?"  She doesnt know anything about what was done, where or what time.

When he woke up he asked his brother if he had texted DBDB and SS20 said no I was waiting until you woke up and gave me the word.  SS15 said - don't bother.  She doesn't care. Why doesn't she care?  

OT Fur baby prayers needed

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SO had to take poochy to the vet last night.  He started to "piddle" around the house even after being outside.  The last time he was out we noticed his leg was lifted but nothing coming out.

Poor guy is filled with kidney stones.  They are operating this morning to remove the stones, remove his gahoonas and cut his urethra so if they come back he can pass them easily.

Waiting anxiously. 



Why am I being punished??

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SO has been trying to get a handle on SS15 attitude.  The talking back, snide comments and the flat out ignoring him has SO frustrated to say the least.

During this discussion on what he needs to change he added this in:

- I do not like that as soon as ClassyNJ comes home from work you quickly grab your stuff and go into your room and shut the door.  

SS15 does do this.  He will say Hello and quickly vacate the living room.  I will change into home clothes, read mail, start dinner and whatever else needs to be done.  

Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas

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Half day at work today and I usually don't get on computer unless I'm at work.

I wanted to wish everyone a peaceful and loving Christmas. Even if all is going bad, just take one second and think about ONE time whether holiday related or not that made you smile from your toes to your head and hang on to that memory thru the holiday Smile