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undertaker girl's picture

Hello, i have been reading blogs on the site for a few months now, and figured it was finally time to write something and share what ive been going through and get some advice. before i start, i'd like to say its pretty refreshing seeing so many people dealing with the same craziness i have, so i know im not crazy. it is very fustrating not knowing anyone else going through what i am, so its hard to relate to most girls my age.

schedule change, CS change? Help, Need advice....

dani1's picture

I need some helf from my fellow sm's. We used to have EOW and every Sunday and now because BM and her family are struggling financially (welcome to our world) she wants to change the schedule to almost 50/50 and still receive the CS she currently receives. Mind you she has not been working since she had a baby with new husb. I am so upset that DH thinks that all this is ok. We struggle financially, we are scrimping every penny so that we may be able to buy a home of our own or even dream to have a child.

Long time...SD disowned her dad & me!

Kato's picture

Hey, it's been probably over a year since I have been online. So much has happened and my life is crazy busy!! Just wanted to ask if anyone has gone through what happened to my fiance and I late last year. My 16yr old SD decided the night of her 16th party that her dad and I were "losers" because we didn't approve of drinking alcohol or smoking for 16yr olds nor hanging out with 18yr old guys. so, she decided to go back to live with her mum, because she lets her do whatever the hell she wants. The SD has not spoken to her father or me and I am incrediably hurt and upset about it.

I just need to get some sleep!

Fed Up And Wiped Out's picture

Well, here it is, almost midnight on a Tuesday night and I just can't sleep. I have so many things on my mind tonight... I have to stop thinking about what is going to happen in the future and what I would like to change about the past. How do you clear your head when so much turmoil is going on around you? I have so much anger pent up inside of me right now towards SD16 and I have to get it out. I know this is not healthy. She is a child. I have to keep reminding myself of that. I have no control over the actions of others, only my own.

Coming to terms with my role

alwaysthemom's picture

In the beginning of this roller coaster ride of stepmom I was at arms all of the time. If something didn't go the way I thought it should I would get angry and it would affect my relationship with my DH. Only because I didn't agree with his nonchalant attitude. Don't get me wrong I will stand up for myself when my time is affected but I'm not going to get involved in BMs ignorance. I think she is a terrible parent, that's MY opinion, no one elses. I have thrown many a fit trying to get BM to be a better parent.

"We need to keep it in the family"

Mary Louise's picture

SS and SD found out last Thursday that SIL is pregnant. Apparently, DH's brother and wife thought it was a good idea to tell a 7 and 9 yr old that his wife was 6 weeks pregnant (even though she is high risk - 39 and has already had a Developmentally disabled child; BIL has MS)

MIL was present and made the statement "we need to make sure we keep this in the family" - by which both kids understood they were not to tell me about it, or DH since they are aware that MIL does not consider us part of the family.

councelling?

acep74's picture

I'm so angry and ahhhh ... had a meeting with the social worker conected with hubby's work. We told her a bits and peices of everything about what kind of up bringing sd had with bm, she would nod her head and sigh, it started to get to me her saying she understands how hubby felt and what we are going through, bull.... no one can understand unless they are going through or been there, its damn hard and its soo frustrating people sitting there claiming to feel for you, so fake.

I had an epiphany

kathleen's picture

Going to the retreat, made me feel real in this cyper relationship we have. So I felt drawn back in. Only to find a different site. Maybe it's like graduating high school and going back for a reunion.

What struck me most is how what I thought I could get from this place and what I'm doing now makes me feel so differently about the whole step life I have been leading.

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