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Well, as I have mentioned in some posts, I have decided to get some therapy for myself. My appointment is in an hour and a half, I am nervous! I have been ranting for years that we all (in our family) need some therapy. When DH and ex first divorced the SK's were in therapy and I insisted that they stop. I still think I was right. It was only serving to tell the SK's that divorce was a tragedy and it was OK to act out becuse of it. BM picked the therapist and was dictating to the councelor what the SK's issues were and in her narcissistc fashion, manipulating the Dr.
Father's day was good, and of course My Dh had SS this weekend. All except for the whinning as usual, when he doesnt get his way, and the mouthing of anytime you ask ss to do anything. Well, we are int he middle of having a good time sunday afternoon, when ss starts his where are we going after this routine. He always starts in with the whining on sundays befor we take him home. sometimes it starts as soon as he gets up in the morning, or sometimes its after lunch, but you can count on it,thats for sure.
ok I had a pretty frustrating father's day
friends please help me understand,
I decided to take my FH and his two younger biokids to dinner as a treat for Father'day. He is the NCP>
My thought was that since they really dont spend a whole lot of quality time together a nice dinner out would be a change of pace and a chance to catch up with them and have them enjoy time with their father who has to work a lot of hours and doesnt get to spend tons of time with them.
WRONG!!
It was even worse than I anticipated, and even though I know husband is hurt I do not think it is my fault. Let me explain.
Husband was supposed to pick up SD15 from BM at 10:30 am Saturday. SD asked to change to 9 am and husband never told me. So when I was planning to take BDs4 and 2 to a museum, he had BD4 with him. I had to wait for him to get home and was mad he never told me the time changed.
Our court scheduled father's day time landed in such a way that we got an extra "weekend" - p/u at 6pm fri to sun at 6pm. Our normal custody time starts back mon 730 am through wed 730 am.
DH asked if we could just keep kids here sun evening since he would be picking them up at 730 mon. BM said no. Not such a big deal, although highly inconvenient, and we expected her to say no, she always does.
Anyone else have a truly needy, clingy, attention seeking DH? Even when his son still lived with us, he was the exact same way. He's driving me nuts. I have a huge, important test tomorrow to pass my Masters in Ed. program and he's been putting me on a huge guilt trip about studying for it because God forbid, I'm not giving him every spare second of my attention.
THANK you, my new shoulders to lean on, for helping me realize that I AM NOT THE CRAZY ONE here.
Get this....sure, it was father's day, I get it, BUT when Adult SD called (and this goes on ALL THE TIME), it's like I NO LONGER exist. He won't even acknowledge that I'm in the SAME ROOM!! ("I'm not doing anything")....is it SO BAD for me to expect that he should say "Hey, we're sitting here watching TV?"
Hello everyone! I've been reading this site and many of your posts for over a year now and everyone here has been tremendously helpful in so many ways.
I usually just read what's been posted and get insight from that, but this time I would like to ask you all a question directly; what purpose does it serve for BM to want to meet my fiance and I for dinner so she can meet me?
Their kids are grown - last one just graduated HS and is 18 on her way to college out of state & the other older kids are doing their own thing as well (as much as kids do these days...).
Ok, this may sound gross, but... How often do [your] children go number 2? I've always heard that you're supposed to go at least once a day. SS goes about once a week. I assume it's because of the food he is fed... we try to get him to eat good healthy food when he's with us but he usually is very resistant because he's used to just eating chicken (literally, JUST chicken, every meal, every day). He had an intestinal blockage last year and had to be put on medication and have several things done to him which are done when that happens that I won't get into.
SD is so selfish and self centered. The teenage girls stayed up really late last night because it is the summer. Whatever. Told my kids that bedtime is 12 at the latest even if it is summer. I got up this morning made a great breakfast. DH helped. Everyone is sitting at table eating and DH said something to my 13yr old because she is so tired and SD pipes up in a really rude voice about how it is 10:30 in the morning. DH "doesn't hear her". Then I give DH his card and gifts and even though everyone signed he is captivated by what SD wrote.
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