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Ok so my DH has to go out of town (required for work) in two weeks. He will be gone for about 6 days. He has joint custody with daughter, 2. It is two weeks on two weeks off. Well, his traveling takes him away for one entire week while SD is here. DH sent an email to BM and told he was going out of town during this time frame and if she wanted to take her a week early and then he would pick up daughter the weekend he gets back and start the 2 weeks on 2 weeks off at that point. Of course, BM does not agree. She wants to keep her for 3 weeks straight.
I haven't been on here in ages mainly because things were going somewhat ok. But recently my DH and I have been having a lot more arguments than usual. Here it is We have been married for 1 year and have 1 BS together he is 9months old. I have a 7 year old BG from my previous marriage. He has a 2 year old daughter from his previous marriage and a 7 year old son from a previous relationship. Yep you read it right 3 kids 3 different moms. I desperately need some advice. Here is the story. First his 7 year old son has been with my DH's mom in CA for the last year and a half.
Long story short. My current husband continues to have a volatile relationship with his ex. We really try our best to get along with her, but it keeps getting thrown back in our face.
She is irresponsible when it comes to the kids and their schoolwork. He sent her a text today asking her to help encourage their son to be responsible about a specific item. She got angry and bit back that he was abusing her.
I am trying to think of how we will tell them. I want to do it in a way that is fun for them, to try and get them excited about the idea.
How did you tell your skids you were pregnant.. also, how did you surprise other family members w/the news? I am looking for your creative ideas!!!
I would like for you guys to read these emails and see if you think they sound at all legitimate. I think that there is a lot of made up stuff in them to try to guilt BF into letting her keep SS from coming on visitation. She has always insisted that SS has said he would rather be able to pick and choose when he comes to visit instead of being "forced" to come every other weekend and that that is a major contributing factor to why BF and SS "have no bond".
BF got an email from BM today letting him know that she and baby are going on vacation for a week in October. We already knew that but we did not know where she was going. Now we do! Back to the place she went while married to BF to have multiple affairs and attend orgie parties. My concern at this point is that she is bringing baby. BF emailed her back and offered to take baby while she is gone adn I am sure she will refuse but at least he offered. Baby is still pulling on his ear so we are concerned that a plane ride will aggrevate his ear troubles.
I know we have this site as stepparents..anyone know of any bm sites and the issues they face? After a recent incident with bm....I really think she's jealous that I took the only thing she had on me...having a baby..before, she was the mother of his only child, and I took that away from her.
Well , just like she is fishing , 15 yr old sd rang today , just too keep playing games , telling hubby she still wants to have a relationship, but she wouldnt tell him anything about her life. She said she dosent have a mobile , all she did was lie.
Then i heard her say she dosent love me at all( that hurt , but it hurts more seeing her hurt hubby) the ex did this for so many years now she is. I mean she told him a month ago to get lost!
just lies or no talking at all.
At the new middle school for step-son 12. It's nice to be included and I wouldn't have it any other way but it kind of makes me a little sad sometimes... I never get to be the mom. I don't get to sign up as a parent helper (not that his mom does), I don't get to be involved every day with homework and know how he's progressing. I don't get to make decisions about what classes he takes or after school activities. He's a great kid and both he and his dad treat me with respect and appreciate what I do but I never get to be the mom.
Biological Mother. BM. She will always be their mother. I can't change that fact and at some point in time, my beautiful, innocent stepdaughters need to learn about their mother and all her imperfection. BM is diagnosed bipolar/BPD. I recently learned (thanks MamaSita for your book recommendation) that BM stays in her abusive relationship with her controlling boyfriend because she has no sense of control over her own life and feelings...that she is actually comforted when being controlled. She thrives on chaos and her BF gives her all that she needs to feel validated.
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