BM wants to meet me
Hello everyone! I've been reading this site and many of your posts for over a year now and everyone here has been tremendously helpful in so many ways.
I usually just read what's been posted and get insight from that, but this time I would like to ask you all a question directly; what purpose does it serve for BM to want to meet my fiance and I for dinner so she can meet me?
Their kids are grown - last one just graduated HS and is 18 on her way to college out of state & the other older kids are doing their own thing as well (as much as kids do these days...).
I am not co-parenting them. They have a mom and are all grown up (in age anyway lol). I do understand that being a girlfriend, fiance, or wife DOES make you a part of the equation even if you are dealing with adult children. You still have an opinion about things and have an effect on things even if you are trying to be very subtle. I have always chosen to be very understanding when it comes to my fiances kids and their feelings.
This being said, I have to raise an eyebrow when she mentioned to my fiance that she would want to have a meeting with me. I'd like some insight as to what her reasoning is behind this dinner meeting.
Hopefully its nothing malicious - like just to judge me or give me the elevator eyes. I really don't want to go to dinner or any where else with her for that matter! ya know!!
But I am still curious if she is really and truly trying to be constructive in her gesture.
My gut tells me this is all really twisted though. I feel like dinners and soccer games with the exwife is not any place I want or NEED to be. I just want the kids to feel okay about being around me without their mom freaking out on them for "was SHeeeeeee there????" I didn't know I was that upsetting to the ex.
I thought I was sensitive - wowzers!
Oh - fiance does not have much interaction with ex wife - he just wants his kids to stop being questioned about me by the ex. I am pretty sure she is having a tough time with the fact that I exist - even though they have been divorce for about 7 years and we have been together for 4. Get over it lady!
thanks in advance for your answers and insight.