Pet Peeve & Explainations
We've all faced this at some point I'm sure.
You get into conversations with others about relationships. They tell you about their ex's / step kids ~ you talk about your situation. Fine. Most people are I know are divorced / going through the 2nd marriage thing. whatever.
Then some how this happens: they start exposing little things that make me feel very dysfunctional - or like I am not dropping the hammer hard enough or often enough. Such as, "oh you should tell him NEVER to talk to his ex wife." "You should ALWAYS go to any family function (or dysfunction I add)." Maybe I'm delusional, but I actually trust my man to handle his shit without me mediating the whole thing.
I guess I should not tell the truth about what goes on between my FH and his ex / kids / me because I guess it is kinda strange to others. But there is no cookie cutter answer for divorce and how to handle these extraordinary circumstances! Plus, I think things have gotten better over the last 4 years.
I'm not seeking approval from others when I talk about my relationship. Hell, I'm just talking! It's normal to discuss what going on in life.
Does anyone else ever feel like they are trying to argue a defense for how things are in your relationship? How do you approach things when others start giving unsolicited advice?
Anymore I just shrug off the comments and go about my life. But I still get that yuck-o feeling in the pit of my stomach.