So my decision is that I switched the Christmas eve and Christmas day with my ex so that my kids don't miss out on their holiday dinner with all of their family, cousins aunts and uncles on their dads side. I knew they would want to go to that. I felt a bit upset..

However it will be fine and I'll treat Christmas eve the same as i would Christmas day... Have them open presents Christmas eve morning and have a nice dinner... Etc. Beating Christmas day to the punch, lol.

I know I have posted about this relentlessly... Regarding my husbands 2 teenagers visiting the house. My boundary was that they don't ever come here. For things that happened in the past, the kids troubesome major issues they've had, lack of respect for my authority and the list goes on. Then husband tries to invite SS to our house last minute.. Twice.. For overnights....?

Spoke with my counselor about all this step kids stuff and my husband wanting to have his kids over here for a night. She understands I am too stressed to deal with them. She wondered why I was so worked up because it ended in my favour but understood i was upset about my boundary being tested somewhat.. She wondered if I could have used them coming over as a trial

I sometimes wonder if I am the bad guy for not allowing these kids back to my home but I 100 percent am not mentally prepared to see their faces let alone be in my home after their treatment and behavior 

Had another talk with my husband. He was asking if I was feeling ok. Somehow we talked about the boundary about his kids and I brought up about how he invited my SS to our wedding party 2 days before, against my wishes. He seemed really uncomfortable to talk about it. He just kept saying he doesn't remember how it went down and didn't recall inviting SS. I told him it made me feel horrible and upset that he invited SS knowing I didn't want that. Then he kept saying in an angry voice, "Well I can't do anything about it now! It's too late, it's already done!