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Yesterday we had a birthday party for him.
This is my step son from a previous marriage. He lives with us 100% of the time.
He sees his Bio Dad about one weekend a month and the other weekends he visits his mom.
This marked a milestone in my life.
17 years ago I did not know if he would except me as a step dad.
He never called me Jon in all those years. Always dad. When my ex wife and I split up, he lived with her for a little while and eventually asked to come live with me again.
Last night we went to a party for FH's niece. The party started at 6:30 and ended at 9:30.
6:30 - we get there and they start serving pizza. SD10 is sulking and refuses to eat, saying she is not hungry. Okay, fine but you are not going to eat when we get home at 10:00 so you should eat here and you haven't eaten since lunchtime. SD10 still says she is not hungry.
7:00 - party is happening - kids are dancing and mingling, there's a strobe light and a disco ball, and everyone is having tons of fun - except SD10 who sits by us and refusing to even socialize.
Welcome one and all to my blog - a purely cathartic piece of documentary journalism regarding the behaviour of my 'stepson', of which I shall now call 'z'. Things haven't been going so well since he hit adolescence, he was always a bit of a handful for my partner, 'x'. But the influx of hormones , peers and the media have amplified this - and he has become a real little to monster..so...and this is purely self-help, I will keep this up for the entire year - maybe i'll be able to find some 'patterns'. Maybe its bad nutrition.
To have "connection" w. SS why does FH have to disconnect from me?
I have realized that the stress I feel, the isolation, anxiety, and lonliness that are at times so overwhelming- this is b.c FH can't assert his connection to me or be a "we" with me when his son is with us. I wish he understood this. That I can't have that w. him only when SS isn't w. us. I need it with him and from him all the time. And when he takes it away b.c he thinks he can't be connected to us both I feel so sad, so alone, panicked, and then angry.
Sheriffs office just called, there going to do a background check. He has numerous reports filed on him. Please, please let them do something.
I asked my 11SS how much money he had in his wallet before he left our house for the week because his mom isn't working right now and she is not married, she simply collects her government unemployment check at the end of the month and that is it! She does not have $ to give him. I wanted to make sure he had a few bucks to get him through the week at school next week...He replied that he had $2.00 in his wallet.
DH and SS14 had a major blowout this afternoon. SS14 was mad, and called him every name in the book and started swinging punches... All because he had to help with a few chores to "pay back" the $10 he had borrowed for the school dance last night.
I was inside the house, but I could hear SS yelling all kinds of obsenities. I heard the dirtbike roar down the gravel road, and then more yelling. Then it got quiet. I looked out the window to make sure they hadn't killed one another. LOL
I recently turned 40 and have 2 stepkids ages 13 and 8. I am at the end of my rope. They say there is no such thing as a bad kid, but for the last 7 years my stepkids have tried to prove that statement wrong. It all statred when my stepson whi is now 13 was 8. He was a hyper kid who demanded alot of attention. My wife had been in an abusive marriage prior. My stepson was wild, hype, and out of control. In the beginning I thought he was just being a kid. He wanted someone to care about and love him and wanted attention. I soon found out that he did want these things, just on his terms.
We have all 6 kids over, and the boy took his medicine and still acts like an ass.
My skids live with us all the time. They are 14, 15, and 17. (We also have a son who is 8.) They are supposed to see their BM EOW.
Am I evil for wanting to them to be gone? BM changed plans with SD17 at the last minute without consulting DH, so BM just took SD and left the boys here. I commented to DH it wasn't fair for her to reschedule my weekend without our permission. And he gets all pissy, "She's crazy. I don't want them there, it's better they didn't go..."
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