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My problems with blogs has always been that I want to start at the very beginning ... and it's just not possible ... so I never get anything written. I guess that says something about living in the present.
So, today I joined StepTalk and today I'm starting this blog. With the here and now, the rest may or may not get filled in in time, but the important part is getting it out.
In the last 2.5 years BM has seen her kids for 5 days, two of which she constantly bugged fiance to come get them because "it was too hard" and "they wanted him".
How disgusting is that?
I have disengaged in my house this week and it is not getting any better. My SD and her Dad had an argument last night and he grounded her from everything. She somehow got a phone and called the BM and she called the husband to tell him to lay off SD. 45 minutes later and he is so frustrated, that I offered to move back to my house since it has not sold. She told the mom about me correcting her on silverware when setting the table and making her use a side door to come in the house.
I have been having problems with SD15 the past few months. We don't get along at all, but I have tried something new all this week and it really seems to be working. I have a list of 10 things I can do with her, for her, and to her. ex. hug her, ask her about her day, tell her I love her, make dinner together. These types of things. I told myself I had to do at least 3 things on the list everyday and I have seen an amazing improvement in her attitude towards me. By last night she stayed and cooked dinner with me and was talking the whole time about this and that.
After 4 years of trying to figure it out myself... I give up. I need some advise on how to switch from the bad to the good without it blowing up in my face. Please read my Bio to understand the situation I am in. I have a few suggestions for myself to initiate a better future for my family and the BM. I also need help to get my heart from jumping out of my chest every time she is around and simmer the aggressive feeling I have. Here they are:
Ask her to lunch just the two of us to discuss our differences and how to come to common ground
Hi, I just married my DH. He has two kids with is good for nothing ex wife.
I would just like to thank Kidsaplenty for the advice - My SD12 is going to a party tonight that will finish at 11pm so I asked my BF if he would be up for a meal and then we can collect SD12 after - RESULT he said yes! I might be able to have a chat with him as well about stuff going on in my head in a neutral surrounding. THANK YOU xxx 
I am writing this blog on behalf of my fiancé who committed suicide on the 8th of November 2009.
She had been a member of your site for what I believe to be at least the last 12 months. From what she has told me the last few months she was just mainly reading and getting advice from replies to different posts.
Well I decided to just keep writing, and if people I know read it oh well. I will probably still delete things out after awhile though.
Anyhow BM has a son she had with the man she was cheating on my fiance with. He is a bit over a year i think. They are currently going through a massive custody battle, and she claims he abused him to the point that he is now going blind...apparently from being hit in the head/eyes. I have no idea of any of this is true, its just what she has told fiance.
I know that a lot of us here have skids who weren't "mutually planned" by our DHs/SOs/FHs. In fact, my DH has told me in private that he feels BM went off the pill to get pregnant with SD13 after he told her he didn't want kids. In fact, this seems to happen a lot in Hollywood too. Tom Brady might feel that Bridget went off the pill deliberately. Whether she did or not, we'll never know. Hopefully though, he loves both of his children equally in his heart.
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