We saw professional help today in regards to, how to step parent adults Ex step children and the holidays! The counselor reminded us that there is "pressure" from the BM. Even if the SD does not even realize it. The BM in threaten by "us". She does not understand why her BD would want to have anything to do with us (or maybe just me). So I need to remember that SD feels torn! You know how BC are committed to BP. My H is not a BF to her. He is now an Ex SF.

Has anyone ever had this problem where you are put in the position where DH and Skids are looking at you like do something you are the mom, and for a while you take on the role and then all of a sudden you are at fault and skids are like you are not our mom you are just the SM and DH is saying the same thing, so what do you do? Do you become the heartless SM? or do you just keep getting pushed and pulled?

For the last several months the future in-laws have been getting buddy-buddy with the ex despite fiance's objections. Now they have arranged to have time with the kids through the ex. It wouldn't be such a big deal but they have been telling her that he won't let them have the kids even though they haven't asked to see them.

... and that's another drama. When I was 12, my mother told me that my SF wanted to adopt me. She said it was his idea. 10 years later there I was paying to have my name changed because I couldn't afford the adoption fees. He could afford buying tractors, stereo systems, & whatever other equipment he really wanted. But he couldn't afford to adopt me?