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i'm 44 with three grown kids that i raised alone and got married a year ago
now i've ask my husband to move out with his kid she here most of the time
and makes my life a living hell...so i've ask him to move out because his daughter wants to be his wife too...and can't take it anymore...i have mixed feeling about this but if it brings me some kind of peace of mind then i m gonna take it for what its worth ...but at the same time i feel guilty
any advise??
I am just realizing how much this really does suck for her. Of course, she made her bed, but man! To have to beg family or friends for a ride to my home to visit with her own child must be tough to swallow. Dh got off work so he would be home and BM didn't like that at all. We think she was hoping it would just be her and I with SD because I am the nice one and she might be able to con me into allowing her alone time with SD.
I finally posted some "bio" information.
Thanks for all yall's input- even about topics that haven't hit us yet. Seeing what we may be in for helps me prepare for the coming years. It also helps me keep in perspective how good some aspects of this are for me.
Thanks to anyone that has offered sympathy or advice on how to handle future in laws that are supporting and conniving with the ex.
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I have been absent to this site for a bit. Truthfully now looking back I am reminded of how dark our situation was. UPDATE: SD moved out to grandmas house, we (DH & I)started couples counciling, focusing on communication. Then with the kids left in the house (we still have 4) we began family counseling. We all are learning about each other and each others needs in a controled and focused enviroment. It has been a God-send. The change in the house has been so dramatic that DH does not want SD to move back.
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DH's court date with ex is set for Mon. Nov. 5 Should I attend with him for support? I do know when they divorced he had no one attend to support him and his name was drug through the mud.(is that right"drug" it just sounds weird) Anyway, What do you guys think?
Good morning guys. So BM asked us to change our custody schedules to week on week off, we currently do 2 days a week each and EOW. We said fine - let's try it starting next week which means this week we only have SKs our regular 2 days since this weekend coming is BM's. Rewind to 2 weeks ago - BM asked us to have the kids on her 2 scheduled days which meant we had them for 9 days since it was our weekend also.
It never seems to be a problem with discipline etc when the child is of both parents. When it comes to the step though, the boundaries are unclear. I remember my husband telling me that his word was final with his kids. That made me feel totally powerless in my own home. It also made me feel like I married someone other than who I met at the alter. Maybe because things have gone sooo badly with his kids here in this home, and maybe because we don't really see them anymore, I don't have as many issues and have detached into la la land.
My hb ex was served her Child support papers yesterday. She called my HB twice crying on his shoulder. I was absolutely appalled by his reaction toward her. He was so sympathetic and assured her everything would be ok. It drove me mad. Then I let it go. That was yesterday. Then today, he was in the bathroom talking to her again, reassuring her that nothing has changed just he needed support for the kids. Of course he listened to her cry and whine again. I confronted him on it saying that when issues arise in our home you get angry with me you don't lend a sympathic ear.
I can't say as I blame him. I just feel sorry for her. We all know she's doing it to herself and we can't change that...I just hate it that their relationship is suffering. Case in point - this evening we took SS trick-or-treating (YAY we had so much fun!!). Well, there was this booth that was taking pictures of kids in their costumes and printing them for free. I asked SS if he wanted to go get his picture taken and take it home for his Mom. He said, "Noooo!" I asked him why not, and said that I thought his Mom would like to see him having fun in his costume.
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