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Submitted by kathleen on Mon, 09/15/2008 - 8:56pm

Hi everyone. Long time no post... Actually, I have a question for a friend of mine I just spent the weekend with. Long story short, she is the bread winner. She makes a lot of money and her husband has not worked for 8 1/2 years. He gets little jobs here and there, but hasn't made any significant impact on their finances. They have two little girls who have been in full time daycare since they were infants. Okay he's been cheating and she is sick and tired of him. So divorce court is next month. They will be married for 10 years 1 month by trial time.

I had an epiphany

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Submitted by kathleen on Mon, 08/11/2008 - 10:25pm

Going to the retreat, made me feel real in this cyper relationship we have. So I felt drawn back in. Only to find a different site. Maybe it's like graduating high school and going back for a reunion.

What struck me most is how what I thought I could get from this place and what I'm doing now makes me feel so differently about the whole step life I have been leading.

My turn: Kathleen and the Ya Ya Sista' Hood

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Submitted by kathleen on Sun, 08/10/2008 - 11:57pm

We all travel on journeys for different reasons. Me, I ended my fury with the ex and steps, or rather they with me. Even so, I've struggled with my choices, behavior and the consequences that my being influenced. For a long time now, although I haven't written much on ST, I watch and occasionally respond because if it weren't for this group, I may not have survived. So came the retreat...
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I'll tell you a sad story with a happy ending

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Submitted by kathleen on Thu, 07/17/2008 - 8:45pm

Here's life: Part 1

I thought I hit gold, a great husband, two step kids and a seeemingly cool ex-wife.

NOT:

Part 2

Fights, legal battles and parental alienation

Part 3

Too much stress, building a new house, husband loses his job, multiple miscarriages inexperienced contractor, fails to finish project and tries to sue us because he can't pay his own bills.

Part 4

I feel so sad for my husband

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Submitted by kathleen on Thu, 06/05/2008 - 7:37am

We're having a birthday party for my daughter on the 14th. She'll be three. She wanted her sister, my SD to come and paint faces. I emailed SD and asked her if she would come and paint the kids faces. Her response was that that is Father's Day weekend and she already has plans. What with her mother's boyfriend? I want to cry for my husband.

Sort of a laugh

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Submitted by kathleen on Thu, 05/29/2008 - 3:58pm

Okay, my friend Liz has had a bad bunch of luck lately. She missed getting the job of her dreams by making a mistake on an entrance exam, her mother died, and she got pnemonia and was feeling pretty shitty. All within 2 weeks. I called her today to see how she was and she said....

I just feel like talking...

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Submitted by kathleen on Fri, 04/25/2008 - 3:39pm

Can I? Some of you don't know me because I'm not on here that often anymore. This place was a sanctuary for me during the eye of the storm. Now, well call me evil, cold, ugly, poison.

I've thought those thoughts about myself wondering how I can say what I am about to tell you all. Here it goes. I'm glad we don't see DH's kids anymore. I'm glad to not worry about the shit I went through daily, all that you do still. But, I feel bad. DH had his birthday on Tuesday and not a single goddamn word from the kids.

Thanks friends

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Submitted by kathleen on Mon, 03/24/2008 - 1:00am

Well, for those of you who responded to my last post, I was very concerned about my daughters daycare and you gave me the strength to find something else. For some reason, my husband, didn't, and actually still doesn't get it.

Because of this challenge, I have taken pause to understand ... the ex...I know as scary as that may sound.

You may know that we are in the middle of a move. So, I was collecting stuff and found, resurfaced from years before our marriage, a folder my husband kept. It included, vasectomy information and mediation letters.

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