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I live with a SD23 who thinks she is 10. My BF and I got enagaged on Friday and when she saw the ring she asked what it was for. When he told her she dropped my hand and walked away. She did not say congrats, nice ring, nothing. She just walked away. The next day she was in a rotten mood and her dad said I wonder what is wrong with her...LOL. I knew but wasn't going to say. He thinks it's becasue she was having a fight with her on again off again BF. But I know better. She has been trying to get rid of me since the day I moved in 2 years ago.
Well, today is the day that the darling SD gets married. I did tell my DH that if she wanted me to be there then she would need to invite me herself, which she did. So, with that criteria met I have to go. I want to support my husband, but I just want to scream! Stupid girl is 18 and hasn't even been out of high school for a year. She doesn't want to have to make her own plans, so getting married has become the plan. There is NO way this girl is rady to be a military spouse. First time he is away the mouse will definitely play! Loyalty and fidelity mean absolutely nothing to her.
Let me start by saying that I in NO WAY think that there is ANYTHING whatsoever between my DH and his ex-wife. But several things make me uncomfortable.
1. DH has gone to get his haircut. He gets his haircut at the place where BM is a receptionist. He gets it done very cheaply, but still. I don't like it.
2. I work 3rd shift, and a few weeks ago, I woke up in the evening to BM and her boyfriend drinking beer and watching football with DH and SS. No one asked me what I thought. She was just there. DH said,"Well I had too many hamburgers grilled so I invited them over."
I am livid! Last night H gets off the phone with the cokehead drug-dealer junkie SD19 and announces to me that she will be coming to Christmas dinner--which means all day. Maybe a few days, too, because SD19 will of course want to stay for a hot shower and a warm bed, and food in the fridge.
I uncorked on him. Don't I deserve to be ASKED before people are invited into my home? Especially junkie drug-dealers? Don't I have a say in this decision? And, by the way, my answer is NO NO NO!
BM cheated repeated before BF found out and it ended their marriage. BF busted BM cheating because he found sexually explict photos she took of herself and sent to numerous men she met on poker playing sites and such and they sent her back photos and videos that were also sexual in nature. BM also wrote many emails to these men with very dirty stories in them - all somewhat violet and very sexual - rated XXX and I am not a prude. We have these emails and photos and videos. Due to all this cheating, BF had to have DNA tests done before baby was born to find out if he was the father.
BM wanted xmas to start at 9am and when the order came it said 9am and BM wanted to give BF baby at 1 or 2 pm. NOT happening! BM still has not answered to whether she will meet us or drop FSS1 at his grandparents house that morning. BF asked for baby for a few hours on New Years Day, which is her holiday, and she said as long as BF does the driving that it is fine. Which we have no problem with driving since we will be in her area anyway.
Three days til Christmas and I have NO idea if SD15 is going to be visiting for any part of the holiday.
I'm fighting off the knots in my stomach about the impending doom a visit will bring. I'm sure all current plans will be thrown out the window if SD decides to grace us with her presence. My baby brother is on a church mission and only gets to call home twice a year. The time for the call has been set for Christmas morning so the whole family can talk to him. I'm absolutely sure that will be the time SD will needs to be picked up and BF will want to take her to MIL's.
Well this weekend was my daughters 12th Birthday...Planned a party with cousins that share the same birthday....Only because my child is an only child and their would be plenty of kids her age their and she would have fun...Well FH ask me why we where having the party at the cousins house and i explained to him why...That she would have more fun that way...Well he ask me 2 times this past week if party was cancelled??
So to update you BM filed domestic abuse charges on FH. The charges were that he abuse her because "he called me crazy". LOL what a thing to call domestic abuse. Anyways we just got back from court, we had a lawyer while BM represented herself. She ended up making a deal with our lawyer instead of going in front of the judge. Now we have the same parenting plan the only difference she gets her for more time on Christmas this year. I swear she got so scared just because of the lawyer. But it was worth it to us because now it is on record FH has SD2 50% of the time.
So BM and I are real friendly now and she confides in me and we are one big happy family just like I always wanted. Or is it?
Just to get it out of the way I'll say, yes, maybe I am crazy myself for wanting this relationship with bm after all she has done. My only excuse is my love for SD. IF you could only see how much better she is now that DH and I are on BM's good side.
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